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Admin	What about Chemistry? Posted : 25 Aug, 2011 12:11 AM "Don't know much about History" "Don't know much Biology" "Don't know much about a Science book" "Don't know much about the French I took" Would it be fair to say that despite all of your criteria...despite everything that you are looking for in a man (well, not Everything) that...Chemistry...TRUMPS everything else? I mean if a guy has those "dreamy" eyes that just turn you into a pool of "Blub"...wouldn't something like that be difficult to Ignore? If the guy is McDreamy or McSteamy and he comes up a little "short" on some of the things you are looking for...but...he is TOTALLY into you...would you not go for it? Answer Truthfully! Post Reply
bcpianogal View Profile History	What about Chemistry? Posted : 25 Aug, 2011 05:23 AM It would depend on what areas he came up short in. Some things are non-negotiable! But if he's coming up short in a negotiable area, sure! I'd consider it! Post Reply
View Profile History	What about Chemistry? Posted : 25 Aug, 2011 07:54 AM Even before a chemical reaction has a chance to take place...if the male in question does not meet enough of a females acceptable conscious or subconscious attraction criteria�.NO hormonal chemical reaction is going to take place...............EVER. If that fails to happen...if no chemical reaction takes place�it�s not going to matter how �totally into� me HE is because �.I�m not going to find Dreamy McSteamy�s eyes�even remotely attractive. :nahnah: Post Reply
View Profile History	What about Chemistry? Posted : 25 Aug, 2011 11:59 AM So...what if there was a man that had all of the Characteristics that you were "Looking" for and there was McDreamy who had all of them but say two of them and those two were minor ones... then whom would you choose then? Post Reply
View Profile History	What about Chemistry? Posted : 25 Aug, 2011 02:16 PM Mr Dreamy eyes better have some good Christian Characteristics. If he does not, then he might as well put some sun glasses on those eyes. LOL I am all about Character not looks. I do not want an Ugly man but then I do not want to live with Ugly Character either. And, I choose good nice Character over looks any day. :applause: Post Reply
View Profile History	What about Chemistry? Posted : 25 Aug, 2011 11:02 PM I don't know about other women, but I personally think that inward and outward beauty or attractiveness are linked. If I meet a guy and he doesn't measure up to worldly attractiveness but his personality/soul/being/character, etc. is beautiful or attractive than I will probably find him very handsome. The same goes for a handsome man with crummy insides. Beauty may be skin deep, but ugliness goes straight to the bones. It has been my experience that men focus on their outwardness and forget to develop a handsome soul. That being said, I also think that there has to be some sort of attraction. Whether it is some physical aspect, their heart, their compassion, whatever. I believe a couple must have that draw towards one another. Otherwise, what makes a marriage any different than a friendship. Marriage is like a friendship but no where near the same. At least I hope it is more:) Post Reply
Rabbit32 View Profile History	What about Chemistry? Posted : 26 Aug, 2011 12:31 AM Do you ladies believe that chemistry can be engineered? Do men become more attractive outwardly as you like them more and more? Post Reply
SOS4EMAILFRIEND View Profile History	What about Chemistry? Posted : 26 Aug, 2011 05:49 AM Welll actually Rabbit, the chemistry is under attack the more you get to know eachother.... after all chemistry comes with what you see and is pumped up with what you imagine the effect is on you. The more you see, the more it is influenced by the things you see but not like, and the effects that has on you. The challenge is, as I see it, to constantly transfer (not transform!) that chemistry into the portfolio of love which consists of many things such as admiration, respect etc etc, where it becomes that crazy little stimulus that makes you want to a make love to your spouse, time after time after time - despite the fact that he/she is still such an irritating creature when it comes to ..... (you name it) I would say that a whole lot of chemistry is needed to keep a relationship going. At first it comes in mindblowing quantities and one has to be careful not to lose oneself in it, or have the chemistry overrule your convictions and beliefs. Yet as a relationship evolves, the flow of chemistry has to keep coming and for that you do not only need a big part of Mr McDream..... you have to be and stay MRS McDream as well! Post Reply
View Profile History	What about Chemistry? Posted : 26 Aug, 2011 07:24 AM SOS..... Before I can keep the chemistry flowing..... I first need to find it. :stop: And the question is.... will I allow it with a Mr. McDreamy who is not as highly ranked in meeting with the specs as Mr. Goodcharacter. Well, I definitely go for Mr. McDreamy.....as I agree with my fellow countrygirl SOSie here.... the chemistry is what keeps you loving a person..... Yet be aware, that the character of this Mr. McDreamy, whatever might be lacking, you CANNOT change... (and if you think that you can, read this phrase again!) But McDreamy is definitely my winner winner chicken dinner so to speak. Now... where are they?????:ROFL::ROFL: Post Reply
View Profile History	What about Chemistry? Posted : 26 Aug, 2011 10:16 PM I suppose my definition of Chemistry is "chemical". Whether or not the guy is good looking in your eyes is a matter of personal preference and cultural standards for attractiveness, not chemical reactions. Past that, I think that those "chemical reactions" are important. How he smells to you, how your feel when you're near him, how your body responds when he touches your face or hands or kisses you, how easy it is with him. However, they DO NOT trump a man needing to a be teachable mature BELIEVER. Chemistry will never ever make a relationship last, or make it good. That said, a guy could have all the intellectual and spiritual, even physical qualifications I am looking for but if I felt repulsed when he touched me or thought he smelled disgusting it would be a deal breaker. And chemistry comes in degrees. You don't need a raging inferno the first time your fingers brush. You only need a little to create a lot, but if it's not there it's not there. Now, sometimes, over the course of a year or more God changes a woman, but I would not allow a relationship to continue until I felt the chemistry too. And a guy doesn't have to be the best looking for you to have chemistry with him, sometimes something about him just clicks with you even though you wouldn't think it would. Imagine, what if some guy said "yeah, I'm not really feeling this whole being in a relationship thing with you, but you look great on paper so I figure why not?" I'd be pretty hurt. I imagine a guy would too. Relationships aren't all heart, but they're not all head either. Post Reply
Rabbit32 View Profile History	What about Chemistry? Posted : 27 Aug, 2011 01:42 AM "sometimes something about him just clicks with you even though you wouldn't think it would." That's probably the most insightful thing Ive heard a woman say on here. Seek and you shall find, but sadly many arent seeking, or arent seeking the right things :^( Post Reply

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