Author	Thread: What are signs of a healthy argument in relationships?
sisygirl View Profile History	What are signs of a healthy argument in relationships? Posted : 3 Oct, 2013 04:25 AM Ladies since there are recent members here that I missed previously when I asked this question to the guys colomn, the question could be new to them like you dear lady HJMP, By then I didn't know you Teach, and therefore would like to hear from you too sis' if/when having something to share on this subject. Think its very normal for a couple to have differences and don't see eye to eye in certain issues, at times could go as far as having an argument as expressing your differences which is not at all a concern to me, But rather more interested in having a healthy aeguement. What are signs one should be cautious of During an argument, In ensuring that the argument doesn't intimidate or threaten the relationship in anyway. Thanksgiving to you ladies for your shared thoughts!! Post Reply
teach_ib View Profile History	What are signs of a healthy argument in relationships? Posted : 4 Oct, 2013 03:02 PM Sis, You're right, there will be differences of opinion or expectations within a relationship...probably before you enter marriage. Name calling should be off limits. Belittling comments, you're a terrible cook, you have the brains of a rock, etc... Off limits Bringing up everything one has ever done wrong is not effective. Try to be specific in what's bugging you...I try to look for the trigger...the action that might have irritated me so that I can work on changing my reaction to it. Statements that start with 'you never' or 'you always' are generally not helpful. Try to identify how you feel about something and phrase it ... 'I feel neglected, when you don't call me when you might be late.'. Being less accusatory helps...'you never call when you're going to be late and that makes me angry' It is acceptable to agree to disagree on things... Post Reply
sisygirl View Profile History	What are signs of a healthy argument in relationships? Posted : 5 Oct, 2013 01:17 AM Teach I'm gonna make good use of you while still available in the forum. I always have something to take with from your replies. When saying "... The action that might have irritated me so that I can work on changing my reaction to it" I'm amazed at the responsibility I also have for my reactions, when it could have been easy to point out a finger. Thank you so much dear for your shared thought!! Post Reply
mcubed View Profile History	What are signs of a healthy argument in relationships? Posted : 6 Oct, 2013 05:32 PM The one thing I do believe is the man is the head of the house, and if I did right and married a man that loves me as much as Y-shua loves the church and he is submitting to Y-shua than I submit to those hard things. A disagreement should never lead to the threat of divorce/ or I�m leaving you unless you can really back that up� once you have threatened that you have nothing else but to do it. Post Reply
Lukia^ View Profile History	What are signs of a healthy argument in relationships? Posted : 7 Oct, 2013 04:13 AM I also like the points by teach. Don't accuse your partner but be specific whenever he goes wrong. Don't say 'you always do this'.Talk about that specific thing that has hurt you. Then,be loving when you point out things to him.Let it be in a loving way. Its also advisable to take your time when you are really annoyed,take time to cool so that you are able to choose your words. Sometimes you may make things worse by the way you phrase. Post Reply
sisygirl View Profile History	What are signs of a healthy argument in relationships? Posted : 7 Oct, 2013 08:58 PM That's very true Lukia Thank you so much dear for your input on the subject. And yes there's so much to learn from Teach and the rest of you ladies as we speak our minds. Believe me, i'm seeing my faults as thinking of previous arguments with friends, colligues, family etc It was more of accusations than solving the matter. Wish I knew then what I know now would have handled things differently Suppose can only apply those in the future since can't change the past. Thank you so much my sisters!! Post Reply
algomaboy View Profile History	What are signs of a healthy argument in relationships? Posted : 8 Oct, 2013 08:01 AM When I was young several friends from church said never go to bed with the disagreement there. Even if you agree to disagree make peace. Otherwise, do not use sex as a weapon. Post Reply
sisygirl View Profile History	What are signs of a healthy argument in relationships? Posted : 8 Oct, 2013 10:55 AM "Agree to disagree" At times that's the only best thing to do hey Cause we can argue none stop since we're uniquely different in as much as having our common ground. You're making perfect sense. Thanks you!! Post Reply