Author	Thread: Please tell me ladies......
Hisjoymypeace View Profile History	Please tell me ladies...... Posted : 19 Nov, 2013 11:31 AM Viewing profiles here of the gents, at least 6 out of 10 stresses that they are "down to earth". Ladies can you tell me what that description of oneself means to you. Personally I'm struggling with what that really means to me......maybe because when I've have had dialogue with a few brothers here who wrote that in their profile......will let's just say I'm still waiting for them to come down to earth(smile)lol!! Post Reply
Cat4Christ777 View Profile History	Please tell me ladies...... Posted : 19 Nov, 2013 10:16 PM Hi, Joy! Hugs, sis! I thnk I can help you with that one. I take their "down to earth" as meaning they are practical and grounded, as opposed to being flighty and dreamy. Have you ever read a guy's profile that was full of poetry or music lyrics? Those are the "flighty and dreamy" guys. Their heads are always in the clouds. I prefer the rational, grounded guys, myself. ;-) God bless, --Cat Post Reply
View Profile History	Please tell me ladies...... Posted : 19 Nov, 2013 11:44 PM Women totally do this just as much. I'm not a fan of it at all and feel it's annoying. I think it's just one of those safe things people say without really saying anything. Post Reply
Hisjoymypeace View Profile History	Please tell me ladies...... Posted : 20 Nov, 2013 01:58 PM Cat, hugs right back to you sis! Ok, so most don't want to come off "flighty and dreamy".....I can work with that(smile)! As R8E8 expressed, we've all had moments where we say things about ourselves that might not truly reflect who we really are.....in essence it just sounds good......I can work with that too(smile)lol!! Thanks guys! ***Just my opinion....transparency should be the order of the day on Christian dating sites, manly as being believers were held accountable to a Higher standard, but for the fact that you may meet that person face to face, start to converse.....then what?!!! Just saying........ Post Reply
View Profile History	Please tell me ladies...... Posted : 20 Nov, 2013 03:07 PM The fundamental flaw in a process like this (online selection) is that one must rely on the other person's description of themselves (self-written descriptions in a profile). In reality, very few people view themselves correctly. That is also the inherit problem with any test that relies on self evaluation to draw "scientific conclusions". It may be that a person who knows themselves very well is able to answer questions accurately and thus create a result that is close to reality. However, it may also be that a person has little awareness of their true self (despite believing that they do) and the result ends up being far from reality. In addition to all of that, people tend to describe themselves in the most positive light. Often times, they project what they believe the other person will want to hear. My point is that very few people are totally truthful for one reason or another. Your question also begs the question. The reason why that is true is because people rarely define their terms upfront. To use your example of "down to earth". Anyone who reads that is free to draw their own definition of what that means unless the author specifically states what he means by "down to earth". This lends itself to confusion and unmet expectations. Let me explain further. To use your example again, if you have one understanding of "down to earth" and the person claiming the quality has another, you may very well end up disappointed. It will seem to you that they have not lived up to their claim of being "down to earth" when in reality they just haven't lived up to your definition of it. The best advice I could give anyone is to ask for definitions upfront. As an example, " I noticed that you said in your profile that you are "down to earth" What did you mean by that?, etc. Anyway, I could go on indefinitely on this topic but I will spare you of the boredom of having to read any further. :zzzz: Post Reply
View Profile History	Please tell me ladies...... Posted : 20 Nov, 2013 03:54 PM In simple terms "Down to Earth" means "Gounded"...and most I've come across in the world and in these types of sites arnt...I agree with Reno8...its a safe thing to say without saying much...and gals do it to...XO Post Reply
Hisjoymypeace View Profile History	Please tell me ladies...... Posted : 20 Nov, 2013 04:41 PM IWA...thank you for your in depth explanation. And no it was by no means boring(smile)! You are right about something though and that is that the definition of what "down to earth" may mean to me, if not clearly defined by the other individual what it means to them, then expectations could be lowered or enhanced, depending on how both our definitions match up. That's why trying to be as transparent with who we are on these sites, whether good or bad, can make the difference! Thanks for your input! Post Reply
mcubed View Profile History	Please tell me ladies...... Posted : 21 Nov, 2013 04:20 PM To me �down to earth� is a person that takes thing in stride, easy going doesn�t get upset of the little things (and know the difference). Now I do not know if this is what they (men) mean. But I personally am human and understand human� don�t feel like talking sometimes or cannot shut up (and the other person just wants to �shoot me if it will make me leave them alone), snap at you; don�t always say the right thing at the right time, and on accusation am wrong (and I know it). Maybe I should say miss the mark!!!! I love human! So many of us are�lol I do like what IWA said. Just for a f.y.i. I like people who know they are human too�.i think that is what actually down to earth is people that know they are human too and expect to be with another human!!!!! Post Reply
Cat4Christ777 View Profile History	Please tell me ladies...... Posted : 21 Nov, 2013 10:34 PM Amen, sis Joy! Open honesty is always the best policy! I dump guys if I discover they're lying to me. I simply don't understand the point of lying. It never works out, cuzz the liar eventually forgets what he's lied about and accidentally reveals the truth. How does anyone expect to get someone to love them if they won't be honest? Guess it's a sign of our times. Maybe they're not looking for love. Take care, sis! Hugs, --Cat Post Reply