Author	Thread: I am trying to find something lasting with a black woman: Am I doing something wrong?
Admin	I am trying to find something lasting with a black woman: Am I doing something wrong? Posted : 4 Feb, 2019 06:26 PM Greetings, I am a computer scientist seeking an African or black wife with residency in the USA. I come from the UK and I have tri-citizenship: USA, UK and EU. I have been on dates with many women and have always been a gentleman. Whatever country I am in: I fly that flag and only that flag. I have always spoken intellectually to all people because I don't wish to assume anything about anyone. Consequently, my approach to asking a woman out on this site is: to tell them the truth of my intentions. I tell a woman how I feel. "You are very stunning and gorgeous (To be honest my view on beauty is amplified with the attraction to her knowledge rather than just how she looks or lowest common denominator of man's sensuality). However, your profile says very little about you (because it usually doesn't contain much), so I would be honored to have the chance to take you out to dinner and would love a chance to earn your heart if you would let me. Have a lovely day either way sunshine." This is the truth: I know it might be forward but I find that one should be straight forward as not to waste a woman's time. Now I am not Brad Pitt but I am educated and am a very nice person. I have studied the Bible to the letter and I seek a wife because Jesus wants love in marriage. Is the genteel and straight forward approach incorrect? I was under the impression black women wanted an articulate, kind, gentleman that treated them correctly and wanted them for them. Is this an incorrect assumption? Is it because I am not as handsome as Brad Pitt or a movie star? Am I saying the wrong thing? I appreciate your comments. Thank you. Post Reply
Jayzeee View Profile History	I am trying to find something lasting with a black woman: Am I doing something wrong? Posted : 7 Feb, 2019 10:03 AM I think telling someone you want to take them to dinner in a first message is a bit full on. How about messaging them referencing something that caught your eye in their profile. See if you have any common ground, & build up a bit of a rapport before suggesting meeting in person. Post Reply
View Profile History	I am trying to find something lasting with a black woman: Am I doing something wrong? Posted : 13 Feb, 2019 02:27 PM I suppose an indirect approach is the correct implementation is the core of your assumption that proves my fallacy within a direct dynamic. You are probably correct as it is, though, I am under the caution that if not directed from the beginning on one's intent that I might come off brash or superficial. However, since my approach within this boundary of the USA has failed to produce even one date since returning from my trip to the EU and Kenya that your assumptions lead me to believe that my vernacular is merely the joint of which the lexical prowess must be crafted and has been done so incorrectly but will be changed by your advise which seems empirical as the inverse of my current standing and approach. Thank you. Post Reply
Marcouse View Profile History	I am trying to find something lasting with a black woman: Am I doing something wrong? Posted : 20 Apr, 2019 03:57 PM I've chatted to odd African woman and my guess is you are being too articulate. Try not using many complicated words, you are looking to date not get a job. Don't talk about earning her heart, you are giving her the opportunity to earn yours, don't be a sap, don't call any woman you don't know sunshine. Makes you sound like a sexual predator about to offer a Worthers Original and ask if she would like to come around your house to look at your puppy. Have some game, a woman knows you are interested in her if you are messaging her so you don't have to spell it out. Try going out and practising chatting women up in real life. When you start to not face rejection 100% of the time take notice of which approaches work. Don't be yourself and don't listen too much to women's advice on how to get women. They will claim to want the nice man then date the bad boy. I only ever actually dated one African woman who I met in real life before the internet. She didn't have a great vocabulary, the conversation was like walking through treacle so never went for a 2nd date. Met her a couple of years ago in a church and had a good chat as she has good English now. She's separated with kids and I'm nobodies step father. Post Reply
Moonlight7 View Profile History	I am trying to find something lasting with a black woman: Am I doing something wrong? Posted : 21 Apr, 2019 06:56 PM Online dating is very difficult finding the Right Person. Post Reply
Loree7 View Profile History	I am trying to find something lasting with a black woman: Am I doing something wrong? Posted : 8 Feb, 2020 08:23 AM I myself hold more than one passport, but my primary country is the United States of America. I'm not an expert, so this is my opinion. I come from a multicultural background have friends and family around the world (literally) After reading your profile, I would say that you have written it as an African not an American. Your word choice, arrangements, and culture are not aimed for an American lady. We are on a site (online dating) which heightens ones skepticism being aware of many scammers. When something doesn't fit our cultural context, "scammer" whether rightfully or not enters our minds. Post Reply