Author	Thread: 5 Things Men Must Know about Women
Admin	5 Things Men Must Know about Women Posted : 6 Oct, 2010 05:54 PM 5 Things Men Must Know about Women There are 5 things that men must know about women. Women desire to �feel� these things, not just know them logically. In her book, For Men Only, author Shaunti Feldhahn goes into great depth addressing these five, and a few others men need to know. Men must know that: 1. Women want to feel loved. Many women feel insecure about our love for them. There are two things we men can do about it. First, reassure her. In times of conflict with our wives, we should tell them we love them no matter what and that everything will be okay��I love you. We�ll get through this.� When she�s upset, she doesn�t need space,� she needs a hug and to be held. Second, pursue her. Women need to be pursued throughout the relationship, just as we pursued them before we got married. 2. Women want to feel understood. Women need us to understand how they think and feel, even though that is virtually impossible. It would help us to understand that most women�s thought lives are like computers, with multiple windows open and processing all at once. Unlike men who can only process one thing at a time, women are constantly juggling multiple thoughts and emotions all at the same time. On more than one occasion, I�ve watch my wife, daughters and their friends having a conversation where three of them were talking at once about three different things. And guess what, they all understood each other! So, hopefully, if we can generally understand how women think, we might be better able to understand how they feel. 3. Women want to feel emotionally secure. Women want security. Yes, financial security is important, but it comes second to emotional security. Women do think about the house, bills and tuition, but feeling emotionally connected and close to us; and knowing we are there for her, no matter what, is what really matters. 4. Women want to feel listened to. Men, she doesn�t want us to fix it, she just wants us to listen. She doesn�t want or need our solution to the problem, even if she asked for our opinion. She does want us to understand how she�s feeling about the problem and identify with her in that feeling��Thanks for sharing that with me.� or �I�m so sorry that happened.� might be good words to consider saying to her. 5. Women want to feel beautiful. She needs to know, deep within, that we find her beautiful and that we only have eyes for her. She doesn�t just want to know, �Am I beautiful?� but, �Am I beautiful to him?� There may be many mirrors in your home, but the mirror that means most to your wife is you. By: Mark Merrill Post Reply
View Profile History	5 Things Men Must Know about Women Posted : 6 Oct, 2010 11:06 PM What about her time of the month? I guess men should be alert on that "special" occasion lol Post Reply
View Profile History	5 Things Men Must Know about Women Posted : 6 Oct, 2010 11:26 PM Special occasion... :ROFL: I needed that laugh! So true too! I don't really have PMS that bad, but I am a little more sensitive and impatient during that time between ovulation and the start of the next cycle. The first 2-3 days of the next cycle can be a little rough too. I get very distracted when I ovulate and have so much trouble focusing on anything that day. It usually starts with a bit of aching/cramping on one side and then that little pulling/popping sensation eventually, and then the aching/cramping spreads over towards the other side somewhat. About 1/3 of the time probably, I ovulate on both sides and all I really feel like doing then is just laying in bed that day because it just hurts all over down there and a little in my back. So I would definitely want some extra understanding from Future Hubby on ovulation day. Maybe he could help with dinner that night and give me a back massage. And then when I got to feeling better, I could give him a back massage =) Post Reply
Rabbit32 View Profile History	5 Things Men Must Know about Women Posted : 7 Oct, 2010 12:49 AM I wish you women would turn a dif color or develop stripes pr sometime of sighn alerting us to be more aware of what we say or do lol. Not knowing is like walking in to a mine field unaware. Post Reply
View Profile History	5 Things Men Must Know about Women Posted : 7 Oct, 2010 03:31 AM That could be my little home business. I could make coded t-shirts for women. There could be 4 different colours for the 4 parts of the cycle: the yucky time, pre-ovulation, ovulation day, and post-ovulation (aka pms time). There could be 28+ different shirts and it would be the colour corresponding to the time of the cycle and on the front it could say something like "day 10" and then on the back it could have instructions! Like, for day 14 (ovulation day), it could say something like "I would really enjoy a back massage." That sounds totally self-centered, though. But I wonder if something like that would sell. Hmmm... They could be custom-made depending on the woman's needs. But I'd feel kind of weird doing that... like a whole business just focusing on this female neediness. Because guys have needs to; there's are just more constant. I wouldn't want to promote this whole "It's all about me and my needs" kinda thing. Maybe just something like colour-coded necklaces w/ no instructions. They could be beaded with a little metal dog-tag type charm hanging off of them that signifies the time of the cycle. That way, the guy would know at a glance, but it wouldn't scream, "Look at me and fill my needs." Post Reply
View Profile History	5 Things Men Must Know about Women Posted : 7 Oct, 2010 03:49 AM Rabbit, we do turn blue. We feel "blue" by that time :ROFL: Post Reply
cowgirl1984 View Profile History	5 Things Men Must Know about Women Posted : 7 Oct, 2010 04:15 PM Rabbit, this is not something that you would necessarily want her to find, but honestly, it would not be a bad idea to track her moods and look for a pattern. Or you could even ask her... I mean, word it tactfully obviously HAHAHA. Like pixy, I don't get really bad PMS but I have a couple difficult days with cramps, and when I ovulate it's horribly miserable. The "bad" days just depend. For some women it's a day or two, for some it's a week. Once you're in a serious relationship and when it's okay to ask the REALLY personal stuff and you know it's going to be a lasting relationship, just say you want to be more sensitive during times that are more difficult for her emotionally and ask her if she could let you know when something is going on or when it's that time of the month so that you can be understanding. But don't make a big deal of it either (when you ask OR during the times you need to be more sensitive to her) because that would be super annoying, hahaha. Also like pixy, I think just something like helping with dinner or doing the cleaning on days like that is the biggest thing you could do. Post Reply
DEEDEE72 View Profile History	5 Things Men Must Know about Women Posted : 8 Oct, 2010 04:16 PM :applause::applause: Post Reply