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DEEDEE72 View Profile History	GUYS AND GALS..IS THERE EVER A LEGITIMATE REASON TO ... Posted : 20 Oct, 2010 05:01 PM Is there ever a legitimate reason to keep a secret from your spouse? If so examples please Guys please feel free to jump in!! Post Reply
View Profile History	GUYS AND GALS..IS THERE EVER A LEGITIMATE REASON TO ... Posted : 20 Oct, 2010 06:23 PM Besides a birthday present, christmas present or suprise party? Keeping secrets in a relationship are like planting little seeds of mistrust; who know what fruit they will bear when sprouted and grown Post Reply
riveroflife1 View Profile History	GUYS AND GALS..IS THERE EVER A LEGITIMATE REASON TO ... Posted : 20 Oct, 2010 06:46 PM i cannot think of any reason to keep secrets, except for what 2sparrows said. Your partner will be your best friend, isnt that who youtell secrets to anyway? If it was another sister confiding in me about something, I would hope she respected that I'm gonna tell my husband because...well, he's my husband and I trust he will keep it to himself. If anything, we will pray for her or the situation or whatever. Post Reply
DEEDEE72 View Profile History	GUYS AND GALS..IS THERE EVER A LEGITIMATE REASON TO ... Posted : 20 Oct, 2010 06:56 PM So TS if she asks if an outfit makes her look fat you will be completely honest? :ROFL::ROFL: Post Reply
View Profile History	GUYS AND GALS..IS THERE EVER A LEGITIMATE REASON TO ... Posted : 20 Oct, 2010 07:06 PM I agree that unless its a gift or surprise there should be no secrets. I am currently struggling with a secret with my daughter. I feel I can NOT tell her because it would hurt her and I would rather her be mad at me than be hurt.. so this is a struggle of mine ..sigh Post Reply
View Profile History	GUYS AND GALS..IS THERE EVER A LEGITIMATE REASON TO ... Posted : 20 Oct, 2010 08:29 PM @DeeDee Actually yes I would,but wouldn't use the word "fat".:laugh: I would want my wife to know I'm going to give her complete honesty; I think a great gift which is often under appreciated and misunderstood. Post Reply
cowgirl1984 View Profile History	GUYS AND GALS..IS THERE EVER A LEGITIMATE REASON TO ... Posted : 20 Oct, 2010 10:35 PM I partially agree with what river said. Although, I do think there are exceptions. If a best friend or family member confides in me, specifically asks me to not tell him, it doesn't require me to DO anything other than listen or comfort or give my input, and it has nothing at all to do with him, I will honor that, and I would expect my husband to do the same if his best friend or one of his family members approached him with the same situation. If it has to do with my husband, I would not agree to such confidence, unless it is an example like the surprise gift thing. But the reason that I do think it's okay to keep confidence is because it doesn't actually affect them since it doesn't have to do with them and it doesn't require me to do anything, which would involve going behind my husband's back if I didn't tell him what I was doing and why if he asks me. If all I'm doing is keeping confidence, if my husband asks me about it, I would just be honest and say, "So-and-so confided in me and they were not comfortable with me telling you, but it doesn't have anything to do with us." And I would expect him to be okay with that. @twosparrows. Good for you! I would be so mad if I tried on something and my man told me it looked good even when it didn't. @Lady. That sounds like a tough situation, and I certainly won't even pretend to be able to advise you because I do not have any children and I do not know the situation or the effects that either option would have, but I will add that a mother/daughter relationship is different than a husband/wife relationship. Whether that makes a difference in the keeping secrets issue I cannot say. I will be praying for you that the Lord shows you what He wants you to do and that you would have a peace about it and also that your daughter's pain or anger will be healed, no matter which option you choose. Post Reply
Tulip89 View Profile History	GUYS AND GALS..IS THERE EVER A LEGITIMATE REASON TO ... Posted : 20 Oct, 2010 10:50 PM Being intentionally deceptive? I don't agree with it. That said, I think there are areas where it's wise not to divulge the whole truth. I don't want to know any sort of details about my wife's sexual past, for example. "I was a pretty wild before I came to Christ," will suffice. Hearing, "On this day I did this stuff with this guy at this place," may be the truth, but it can only cause more harm than good. Post Reply
View Profile History	GUYS AND GALS..IS THERE EVER A LEGITIMATE REASON TO ... Posted : 21 Oct, 2010 10:19 AM After you met your spouse there should be no secrets. before you are saved details are not important. Post Reply
springrose10 View Profile History	GUYS AND GALS..IS THERE EVER A LEGITIMATE REASON TO ... Posted : 21 Oct, 2010 12:20 PM I don't think a surprise is a secret. It is a surprise in waiting. The surprise does become known. Secrets do not. There should not be secrets between spouses. Not every fact about ourselves that is unknown is a secret. There is no way we could, even if we "should" tell our spouse everything. I think that people who have the need to reveal details of their past, are showing insecurities - Will you still love me now? Intentional deceit is the key. Somethings are better left unsaid. Post Reply
KevinWBachmann View Profile History	GUYS AND GALS..IS THERE EVER A LEGITIMATE REASON TO ... Posted : 21 Oct, 2010 07:48 PM If my friend told me a secret in confidence then it is between me and that friend; that way he or she could come to me anytime to talk. This let's you know you can trust them. I also would wonder what the secret was that was being kept from your partner. This I would talk to God about. People have opinions that are sometimes contrary to what God would have you do. The complete honesty part about an outfit or a hairstyle can be tricky with a woman. This one I have made the mistake of honesty, even gentle honesty and still caught heat for it. This is a tricky area. Post Reply

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