Author	Thread: Long distance relationship...
chakal View Profile History	Long distance relationship... Posted : 4 Jul, 2010 09:47 AM Hello, what are the advantages or disadvantages of such a relationship? I guess most people prefer to date someone near them so they can meet often... :applause:but of course no one choose who to fall in love with but first it need to be found. so do you check profile of someone in another country? Post Reply
View Profile History	Long distance relationship... Posted : 4 Jul, 2010 12:33 PM Well, I reside in The US at present... in the Pacific Northwest. When I was on the prowl, I would consider guys stateside and in Canada. I like men from Florida the best :party: :goofball: :glow: :hearts: My love language is physical touch, and you can't have that when you're so far away =( Post Reply
View Profile History	Long distance relationship... Posted : 4 Jul, 2010 05:23 PM well.. i got some experienced on this subject.. maybe this can help you a little... so much time ago.. i had a formal relationship with a german guy, i met him in 2005 in Germany in K�ln... I met him in 10 days :P It was like love at first sight... something like that.. but our relationship lasted 2 years and half!, We talked by phone, letters, emails, but we couldnt again be together.. reasons well.. were a lot, but i was so young and he was too.. i was 17 and he was 25.. a lot of other things were most important than fight.. for our relationship... but.. our relationship at the end failed.. but.. this is not your case.. cuz.. a lot of other relationship where the distance is.. are victorious.. like a friend very close of mine.. she met his boyfriend on facebook, she is mexican and lives where i am, and her bf, he is from chile(chilean) and he fought for her.. and he worked a lot for meeting her and now they are very happy together.. i mean.. She also traveled to Chile to be with him. What im trying to tell you.. is.. if yo love her, if you really love her.. both we need to fight for your love.. God will help you both cuz God is love. Dont lose your faith... and fight for her.. too... sometimes Dad God.. gives us opportunities and we need to try and be brave. remember Joshua 1:9 =) Post Reply
View Profile History	Long distance relationship... Posted : 4 Jul, 2010 08:40 PM I do prefer to date someone nearby, since I can't discern if a person is right for me without spending time in his presence and seeing him at different times. I have tried long distance relationships more than once. Always the man has promised he is committed to spending the time necessary to keep in touch and communicate --- and each time it has not happened. Weeks would go by and I wouldn't hear from him -- getting no responses from my attempts at communication. So, (when I was looking, I'm not now) I just stopped and stipulated the man had to already be close by. I would never consider someone from another country --- for myself, it would only magnify the problems in getting to know them and communicating. For other people it may work differently. Post Reply
View Profile History	Long distance relationship... Posted : 4 Jul, 2010 08:49 PM but Godslamb.. but How do you know your Beloved is not in other country!! and your are closing your posibilities in know the truth love? Post Reply
chakal View Profile History	Long distance relationship... Posted : 5 Jul, 2010 12:50 AM @pixy: I guess I need to move to Florida to be more...handsome:yay: well, I had some penpal for a long time, was not looking for dating just friends, and I can tell from my experience is that with some people that even he/she live in the other part of the world I feel so close and there is understanding between us... and some friends that are near me but in reality they are so far from my heart and thinking... I no longer think about it and trust God for what he choose for me. Post Reply
LincolnAdams View Profile History	Long distance relationship... Posted : 5 Jul, 2010 09:48 AM Ironically I prefer long distance relationships, but because I have the means to travel more frequently now, person to person contact is more of a possibility than it was in the past. Sadly I find people in my area to be completely off their rockers (must be the water), so I tend to seek friendships outside my state, even if that means most of our correspondence will end up being online. However, I've found a marketed difference between meeting people online and meeting them in real life. It's one thing to meet someone from say, a rural town in Pennsylvania on the Internet, but it's quite another to mingle with them in real life by actually traveling to that area. I tend to observe that people on the internet are more rude, shallow, and mentally unbalanced, and it doesn't seem to matter where they come from. It wasn't until I actually traveled outside my state that I noticed the difference though and that this seems to be a trait unique to the Internet rather than the location. I mentioned Pennsylvania before, in fact I actually tried to befriend quite a few women who lived in Pennsylvania in the past. They'd always blow me off, suddenly stop emailing, or some other such stupid thing. I figured people in Pennsylvania must just STINK then. :winksmile: Then I actually traveled to the very same rural areas on vacation last year. NIGHT AND DAY DIFFERENCE. Women were warm, approachable, friendly, and genuinely happy to be in my company. Since then I've learned it's ideally better to meet people in real life, and THEN continue that correspondence online rather than vice versa. Post Reply
View Profile History	Long distance relationship... Posted : 5 Jul, 2010 04:21 PM Schonherz: Because I have tried it twice now and God has made it clear He does not want me to pursue looking for a husband outside the U.S. It is what works for me -- God may have different plans for others. Post Reply
View Profile History	Long distance relationship... Posted : 5 Jul, 2010 08:14 PM I've noticed that the majority of people who have become "couples" and/or married from the dating sites I have looked at, have not lived close to each other. Some are several states away or on opposite coasts (makes sense because the coasts are more highly populated than the interior) and some even marry someone from another country. Just check out the bottom of the screen where it says "Testimonials" where you can see for yourself. I think that one of the reasons people turn to the internet and dating sites is because they already can't find any one who interests them living where they are. Personally, I would not choose to consider any one outside of Canada/US. Post Reply
DontHitThatMark View Profile History	Long distance relationship... Posted : 6 Jul, 2010 05:57 PM Well...I'm in a semi-long distance relationship. About 4 hours away from each other. I don't think I could handle a relationship that was any more long distance than that. Neither of us are rich by any means, but I do think that a little distance might actually be a good thing. It kinda keeps all that mystical "in love" stuff in the real world, and it's a huge test on the love/commitment of both parties. It's really really easy to be "in love" with someone you see every day. It's really hard to be romantically in love with someone you don't see for weeks at a time. It has to be a lot of love that holds that kind of relationship together. But yeah, 4 hours is hard...different countries would be insane. Kudos to anyone who can stick that out. Anyway...short version, a little distance goes a long way toward a committed relationship. :winksmile: :peace::peace: Post Reply
bcpianogal View Profile History	Long distance relationship... Posted : 6 Jul, 2010 08:49 PM I'm still unsure about long distance relationships. The last guy I dated lived about 90 minutes away (if the traffic wasn't bad!). We saw each other about once a week, and talked on the phone once or twice in between dates. That kept us well-grounded, and kept us from getting too emotionally involved. The relationship ended after just a few months, but I don't think the distance had anything to do with it...we just had some differences. Typically, I won't consider anyone who lives more than about 3-4 hours away, though I supposed for the right guy I would tolerate a full day's drive distance-wise. Any farther away than that, and I probably wouldn't even think about it. Post Reply

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