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Annie_3012 View Profile History	Love language Posted : 9 Nov, 2025 04:51 AM Hello everyone! What’s your love language, and do you think it really matters? Post Reply
Nomoreusernamesleft^ View Profile History	Love language Posted : 9 Nov, 2025 06:46 AM Gary Chapman is a humanist psychologist and author (I met him, personally). He is not a man of the faith of Jesus Christ, he promotes self love ideology and attempts to mingle no longer secular psychology with the Bible and blasphemes the name of Jesus Christ. The very fundamental idea that a person should identify their "love languages" for compatibility with a spouse to work towards a better bond is deceptive at its core. What it really is, is identifying the deeds or words of others that we are prone to be given to, emotionally, is literally discovering the ways we are most susceptible to being manipulated in our emotional preferences (the heart is the most deceptive thing above all things Jeremiah 17:9). If anything, we should be aware of those weaknesses so that we know where we ought to fortify guards up against and not seek to have our emotional desires fulfilled. Churchianity is literally saturated with the influence of Satan and his angels. "Guard your heart, for out of it cometh the issues of life. "He that trusteth in his heart is a fool. The heart is above all deceitful and desperately wicked. So, yeah, "love language" are important to identify, but for the exact opposite reasons that Gary offers. Make no mistake about it, men and angels will exploit any vulnerability in others, for their own benefit. Post Reply
WalkNTalk View Profile History	Love language Posted : 12 Nov, 2025 05:20 AM There is a Christian singer named "Gary Chapman". I don't know that he is a psychologist. Jesus love language was dying on the cross. God sends his rain to fall on the righteous and unrighteous alike. Our love language may change with the times. The ways that we express our love may change. The idea is that while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us. There are different love languages. Post Reply
Nomoreusernamesleft^ View Profile History	Love language Posted : 12 Nov, 2025 07:45 AM The modern use of the term "love language" is based upon a book that a secular psychologist (disguising himself as a follower of Jesus) wrote titled "The 5 Love Languages: The Secret To Love That Lasts." In the book he encourages people to identify the ways people can communicate to you that garnishes you're affection (your "love language") and recognize the ways that you can gain the affection of others based upon their "love languages." It is 100% devilish in that it caters to the most deceptive thing above all things.... the heart. I didn't know that there was another Gary Chapman in the "Christian" music industry. It's not the same person Post Reply

Cuzzie1 View Profile History	Love language Posted : 22 May, 2026 11:58 PM Yes the heart is deceptive but isn't that supposed to change when we follow and accept Christ? 2 Cor 5: 17Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; old things have passed away; behold, all things have become new. Phillipians 4: 7and the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus. Galatians 2:20I have been crucified with Christ; it is no longer I who live, but Christ lives in me; and the life which I now live in the flesh I live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me and gave Himself for me. Now we will still wrestle with our old nature wanting to rear it's head up but our new nature in christ should prevail, and when we do slip up we get back on the straight and narrow quickly. So the prevalent nature being shown and/or striving to stay within is our new nature in Christ, therefore the heart should not be inherently deceitful and that will change the way we look at things including loving our wives/husband's. As a husband I will want to do my best to show love to my wife, but I am very aware that people in general often are affected differently by different things. So as a husband I will want to know if I'm affecting her negativity even if I'm not aware of it so I can change that...and I will also want to know what affects her positively so I can make her feel loved. Not because I want to minipulate her but because I love her. All this within the bounds of scripture of course, but scripture does state..husband's love your wives... as farcas knowing others love language is concerned, I don't believe it is antiscripural when done with the right heart and motive. As far as it making a difference..yes and no... when we marry we make a commitment and knowing each other's love languages or not, shouldn't change that, however it could potentially make the ride smoother if we know and love our spouse in the way they receive it best and visa versa. Post Reply
Cuzzie1 View Profile History	Love language Posted : 22 May, 2026 11:58 PM Yes the heart is deceptive but isn't that supposed to change when we follow and accept Christ? 2 Cor 5: 17Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; old things have passed away; behold, all things have become new. Phillipians 4: 7and the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus. Galatians 2:20I have been crucified with Christ; it is no longer I who live, but Christ lives in me; and the life which I now live in the flesh I live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me and gave Himself for me. Now we will still wrestle with our old nature wanting to rear it's head up but our new nature in christ should prevail, and when we do slip up we get back on the straight and narrow quickly. So the prevalent nature being shown and/or striving to stay within is our new nature in Christ, therefore the heart should not be inherently deceitful and that will change the way we look at things including loving our wives/husband's. As a husband I will want to do my best to show love to my wife, but I am very aware that people in general often are affected differently by different things. So as a husband I will want to know if I'm affecting her negativity even if I'm not aware of it so I can change that...and I will also want to know what affects her positively so I can make her feel loved. Not because I want to minipulate her but because I love her. All this within the bounds of scripture of course, but scripture does state..husband's love your wives... as farcas knowing others love language is concerned, I don't believe it is antiscripural when done with the right heart and motive. As far as it making a difference..yes and no... when we marry we make a commitment and knowing each other's love languages or not, shouldn't change that, however it could potentially make the ride smoother if we know and love our spouse in the way they receive it best and visa versa. Post Reply
WalkNTalk View Profile History	Love language Posted : 23 May, 2026 07:20 AM Scripture also teaches that older women are to teach younger women to love their husband. (Titus 2:4) Post Reply