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Admin	3 Things Women Must Know About Men Posted : 6 Oct, 2010 05:49 PM 3 Things Women Must Know About Men There are 3 things that women must know about men. In her book, For Women Only, author Shaunti Feldhahn goes into great depth addressing these three, and a few other things women need to know. Women must know that: 1. Men want respect. Just as we must love unconditionally, we must also respect unconditionally. That means, contrary to what we often hear, a man should not have to earn the respect of his wife; she should show respect to him no matter what. Here are a couple of specific ways a woman can show respect to a man. First, respect his judgment. A man needs his woman to value and trust his opinions and decisions, even if they prove to be wrong sometimes. That means not constantly questioning his knowledge with a �why do you say that?� or challenging his decisions by asking, �Why don�t you just stop and get directions?� Second, respect his abilities. A man doesn�t want to hear something like, �You�re not a handyman, I�ll call the plumber� or �Sports isn�t your thing, I�ll ask John to teach him how to throw the football.� A guy doesn�t want to be shot down even before he gives it a chance. A man needs his woman to have confidence in what he does, whether it�s fixing the kitchen sink or changing a diaper. A man wants to hear, �Good work, honey. You�re the man!� Respect should be demonstrated not just privately to your husband, but also in front of your children, friends and others as well. When your husband asks your child to take out the garbage, back him up by telling your child, �Let�s do what dad asked us to do right now, please.� When you�re out to dinner with another couple, let them know how your awesome husband surprised you for your anniversary. 2. Men want affirmation. If a man doesn�t think that his woman thinks he�s the greatest, he will seek affirmation elsewhere. He may spend more hours at work where he receives more applause, awards and accolades. He may look for another female to validate him and praise him. He may spend his time watching or playing sports in hopes that his competitive spirit will be satisfied by victory in the game. On the other hand, if he hears the words, �I really admire you for reaching out to John and helping him. He�s had a tough time since he lost his job.� he will be uplifted and inspired. �The kids and I really appreciate how hard you work for our family. I know you�d rather be at home more.� would put wind beneath a husband�s wings. When a man is affirmed, it�s like a strong wind blowing into his sails. If a man feels his wife believes in him, he will excel and do better in other areas of life. 3. Men want to be wanted. Sure, we all know that men want sex�but men also want to be wanted. Sex with an emotionally uninvolved or reluctant wife, who only accommodates her husband to keep him �satisfied,� is not enough. A man wants to know that his wife wants and desires him. Having this kind of mutually enjoyable sex life is not only physically satisfying to your man, but also emotionally fulfilling to him. When a man knows he is wanted in this way, it�s like his wife saying to him, �You are more important to me than anything in the world.� This confidence building in the marriage relationship also spills over to a confident man in other areas of life. By: Mark Merrill Post Reply
View Profile History	3 Things Women Must Know About Men Posted : 6 Oct, 2010 06:09 PM How about: Men want food? :ROFL: Post Reply
paschen81 View Profile History	3 Things Women Must Know About Men Posted : 6 Oct, 2010 06:34 PM Quote: That means not constantly questioning his knowledge with a �why do you say that?� /Quote When I ask a guy "why do you say that?" I'm not asking because I don't think he knows... I'm asking because I think he DOES know and I'd like to know as well! Also, men do not have to earn my respect unless they've done something to severely break my trust and even then they have some respect just not full respect. Sorry to say that... but I can't respect a man who is a known cheater and prides himself in doing it. Post Reply
paschen81 View Profile History	3 Things Women Must Know About Men Posted : 6 Oct, 2010 06:35 PM haha pixy how true! Post Reply
View Profile History	3 Things Women Must Know About Men Posted : 6 Oct, 2010 07:02 PM Thanks Emptyheart. That is good information. Post Reply
Rabbit32 View Profile History	3 Things Women Must Know About Men Posted : 6 Oct, 2010 07:53 PM Preach it!!! @Pixy of cource he wants food and if he dont get it he'll get food else where, lol probably under the golden arches. Post Reply

riveroflife1 View Profile History	3 Things Women Must Know About Men Posted : 6 Oct, 2010 07:58 PM the golden arches are a NO NO- that is an insult to the wifey (well it would be to me) Post Reply
View Profile History	3 Things Women Must Know About Men Posted : 6 Oct, 2010 08:05 PM @Rabbit: I've been told that I make amazing brownies. I make homemade ice cream too. Would that be enough to keep a man away from the golden arches? As to the original post, it IS good information =) Good stuff to keep in mind. Post Reply
Rabbit32 View Profile History	3 Things Women Must Know About Men Posted : 6 Oct, 2010 08:21 PM (done in the voice of Homer Simpson) mmmmm brownies. Post Reply
paschen81 View Profile History	3 Things Women Must Know About Men Posted : 6 Oct, 2010 09:57 PM ah yes brownies! I too have been told I make the best brownies but then... there is a trick to baking good brownies... you do NOT cook them all the way in the oven... the brownies finish baking while cooling outside of the oven ;) Of course I've been told I make awesome cheesecake, p'nut butter chocolate chip cookies, mayo cake, and coffee cookies too lol. I enjoy baking however so... yeah. I do have one downfall though and that is when it comes to pies! I can't quite get the same results my grandmother use to when making pastry pie shells. I do not know what I do differently but it's just never the same. Other type of pie shells such as cookie shells or nutty shells are simple but a true oil pastry shell is indeed an art I can't master. Post Reply
Tulip89 View Profile History	3 Things Women Must Know About Men Posted : 6 Oct, 2010 10:14 PM Hey! I like McDonald's! And unless Future Wife has a culinary degree, I doubt she'll be able to best me in kitchen prowess. It's sad, but true that cooking skills are so rare these days. Post Reply