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hedgedweller
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Recovering from an affair?Posted : 22 Jul, 2008 06:27 PMIs it harder for a man or for a woman to recover from an affair? |
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Recovering from an affair?Posted : 22 Jul, 2008 07:54 PMI'm not an expert on this since I never attempted this situation but do you ever really recover? I feel there is bitterness on both parts. My deceased husband's first wife just about destroyed him when she ran off with his best friend while in seminary. His plans for the missions field were crushed as well as he. Alot of people say that I saved him but we all know who really did that...I guess what I'm trying to say is that every once in a while that old bitterness would creep into something and he had to come to terms with it... |
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Deborahe
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Recovering from an affair?Posted : 26 Jul, 2008 12:35 PMI'm not sure! My ex had many; I remained faithful. From a personal point of view, I'd say the woman. After our divorce it took several years for me to even consider having a new relationship; he, on the other hand, had a new girlfriend within months. Betrayal in any form can be devastating! There are probably men who walked the same road I did, and they may answer; the man. What do the Experts say? |
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SJC1985
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Recovering from an affair?Posted : 28 Jul, 2008 07:22 PMI believe that it would depend on how long you had been married and how much love the husband and wife had for each other. I loved my ex. so much that I worked 8 long years to try to help him with his porn. addiction. The Christian counseling that we both went to included a book, False Intimacy. It stressed how the porn. addiction is progressive. Since I knew that my ex. was not trying to repent of this sin and that he had at least 2 affairs in the end, it did not take me long to get over him. In my mind, his affairs began after we had been married 2 years; so, I went through the grieving process for 8 long years. |
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SJC1985
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Recovering from an affair?Posted : 10 Aug, 2008 06:08 PMHedgedweller, |
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kidvid711
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Recovering from an affair?Posted : 4 Sep, 2008 03:51 PMI think its hard because my mother is sad and doesn't have any friends. Staying single the rest of the way. |
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Recovering from an affair?Posted : 19 Sep, 2008 09:51 PMI was also in a relationship where my ex was addicted to porn. We were married for almost 30 years. The addiction started not long after our marriage but, itr was not real bad at the time I could handle it but the last 8 years it was bad. that is all he ever wanted to do is stay on the putor and look at porn. he had about 30 sites saved as favorites the past year. I was sick the first 6 months of this year with a bad infection from surgery. So where did the porn led him to but, he found another woman if I can call her that I don't think a person who has an affair with a married man is much of a woman. she knew he was married. So in the end he left me for her. I hurt so bad if I think about it. But I have to look at it through Gods eyes. I know I can handle it through Christ who strengthens me. God is the only way I've made it so far. |
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tristan07
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Recovering from an affair?Posted : 16 Oct, 2008 06:11 PMMy spouses afair hurt her more then it hurt me. Yes, it tore my heart out and it took me a long time to deal with it, but to be honest, the disappointment i felt, the hurt, was not self imposed. Her guilt was. |