Author	Thread: What's wrong with me?
Admin	What's wrong with me? Posted : 11 Jun, 2015 12:30 PM So I haven't exactly had the best luck on here, but I don't know why. I carefully read every profile and try and message in a way that isn't generic. I like to think I'm a nice guy, I'm very traditional and conservative (which I know not all women like) and I don't think I look too bad either. Today alone I've sent about 20 messages and so far I haven't gotten much back. I'd like some feedback :) Thanks! Post Reply
View Profile History	What's wrong with me? Posted : 11 Jun, 2015 02:58 PM :waving:...Welcome to CDFF...I don't know you personally so I'm not sure there is anything "wrong" with you per say... :) ... I did notice something in your profile picture that could be a bit of a turn off to some of the gals here...not a judgement...just an observation...God Bless!!! X <>< O Post Reply
Hisjoymypeace View Profile History	What's wrong with me? Posted : 11 Jun, 2015 04:08 PM And to add to GodsJude post...that "something" that could be a turn off to women here is you posing with a shotgun!! Again as my sister said, were not judging you...it's just an observation! As a suggestion, you might want to use a different main pic and make the one your using now a secondary. Maybe even disclaiming in your profile the history behind that second pic(smile)! Again...all just a suggestion! And as for getting little to no responses after messaging folks here...don't feel bad(smile)! We all here at some point or another experienced that! Being able to preserver in this journey, makes the destination all the more better!! Be blessed. Post Reply
TravisjustTravis View Profile History	What's wrong with me? Posted : 11 Jun, 2015 04:41 PM I do not believe in the concept of "causal dating". What I mean by that is I do not like the concept of dating people to try to figure out what you are looking for in a marriage partner. So if I do not think that I would like to marry someone, then I might not want to communicate to much (I am in favor of having some friends, but friends can be hard to find.) However I feel like there is a number of people that think the people that they date can be different than the people that they marry. (I think that there mindset is to have "fun" and date a lot of people then when they are ready to settle down then they will be more selective.) So you might be trying to communicate with people that do not view you as "fun". Post Reply
View Profile History	What's wrong with me? Posted : 11 Jun, 2015 05:08 PM Your "first date" is funny I gotta admit! You have a sense of humor and that is good. You dont drink and that is really a good thing! Id mention your relationship with Jesus if it were me. Its good you have a job but a truly dedicated christian gal is going to want to know you are a genuine godly man .Is that what you really are according to 1John ? Is that what you are looking for? A wife who is godly ? You should look for the one who you want meet because her profile reads like wife material. I dont know whats wrong with the old ladies that already commented! :nahnah: Some gals like "gun toting guys that hang out in dimly lit rooms with a red headed guy walking by unawares "pictures" .:ROFL: jk ladies I agree with you really.I couldnt resist. It was funny how you two commented first. I love you! Seriously: have someone take a another picture. Maybe with you holding a guitar? You can skip the bonfire until the moment presents itself:bunny: Dont be in a rush. You are only 20! Take this time to strengthen your relationship with Jesus and build a solid foundation in all areas of your life so that when SHE does come into view: she will notice you! This is something a man wrote on christiancafe. There is much wisdom to be had here: Our desires/preferences are not hard coded in us. They change through the years as we allow different influences in our lives. The way it should be for a Christian man is found in Psalm 37:4 - "Delight thyself also in the LORD; and he shall give thee the desires of thine heart." If you break this down and do some study, this is really an eye-opening verse. The prerequisite for getting the desires of your heart, "Delight thyself" comes from base words that mean "to become soft and pliable" And of course the promise itself does not mean that you will get anything and everything that your heart desires if you do the first part. The gift is not the fulfillment of the desires, the gift is the right desires themselves. So to summarize this verse, "If you will become soft and pliable before God, He will give you the desires that you should have." and then if we pray according to His will(the desires he has given us) then He will answer that prayer. I John 5:14-15 - And this is the confidence that we have in him, that, if we ask any thing according to his will, he heareth us: And if we know that he hear us, whatsoever we ask, we know that we have the petitions that we desired of him. Unfortunately most Christian men and women do not get their desires set by God, but rather by Hollywood. Those desires are not promised to be filled, and even if they were filled, you will still feel empty. Hope that this is a blessing and help to you. Gods grace to you Post Reply
Hisjoymypeace View Profile History	What's wrong with me? Posted : 11 Jun, 2015 05:37 PM Blondie...you are truly a hoot:ROFL:!! But you're never short of words of wisdom!! Bless you sis!! Post Reply
View Profile History	What's wrong with me? Posted : 12 Jun, 2015 10:54 AM I just think that guys with guns are volatile. I've met a friend of a friend who's Christian just recently and he was obsessed with shotguns. It's certainly not a healthy fixation. Machoism is not equivalent to wielding weapons. Definitely a peace loving Christian woman would want to stay away from arms. Just some advice, brother! Post Reply
View Profile History	What's wrong with me? Posted : 12 Jun, 2015 11:44 AM hmmmm yes a shotgun fixation might make someone slightly nutso... or just small of imagination... For myself anything that goes boom makes me smile for some reason :laugh: On a more serious note though, chicks dig older dudes. It's possible that the ideal woman for you is 10 atm.... might not be a good idea to rush things right now. Post Reply
View Profile History	What's wrong with me? Posted : 12 Jun, 2015 12:15 PM To all the people that commented on the gun it's not my gun. I went to school for criminal justice and that photo was taken during my training. Just to clarify. Post Reply
Keonikane View Profile History	What's wrong with me? Posted : 15 Jun, 2015 02:33 AM Umm... I don't think that anyone mentioned of the gun belonging to you, and you are missing their point. Bluntly, get rid of the gun pic, maybe do as blondieinthehouse mentioned and replace it with one of you with the guitar. It might make some sort of a difference, maybe. As to your question, look, you are a young man, probably still searching for a meaningful career, something that perhaps these ladies are looking for in a guy... someone who they feel is secure. You have time to get to that goal. I'm not implying that your job is inadequate, but maybe to them it may be, I dunno. In search of a relationship, you gotta look to how it may be in the future, not just good times at the present. Don't be in a rush, you also want to meet the right girl, the one God has for you. Not just any girl you may seem to like, but God's best for you. I've an illustration for you. Imagine a long line. In the middle, is God. At one end is you, the other is her. The closer you get to God and the closer she gets to God will make the line shorter bringing the two of you closer to each other, and of course, God still in the middle where He should be, the focal point in any relationship. So focus on your relationship on God and getting closer to Him. Pray to God that this girl also draws closer to Him. Trust in God and in Him only in His timing. You'll be glad you waited. Post Reply
ChromeplatedHeart View Profile History	What's wrong with me? Posted : 18 Jun, 2015 08:26 AM I got curious and looked at your profile. Your description of your (ideal?) first date is... "intense" to say the least. I do think it would be a lot better if you would dump your car in the ocean instead, and help in creating an artificial coral reef. Post Reply

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