Thread: How do you survive without killing somebody?
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How do you survive without killing somebody?
Posted : 22 Sep, 2010 02:56 PM
For the record, I do not like being pregnant. I feel like I have PMS times 100 and absolutely everybody and everything is aggravating me so badly. I feel so out of control emotionally that I'm almost kind of scaring myself. I don't think I can survive 8 more months of this w/out killing somebody. And despite puking a couple times (or more) a day, I'm sure I've gained about 20 pounds already. I'm constantly hungry. I'll eat a full meal and be hungry again like 10 minutes later and my tummy starts growling at me if I don't feed it more. The baby is only the size of an appleseed so I don't know why it needs so much food already. And my skin is breaking out horribly. I just can't do this. I feel like an alien has taken over my body.
Do any other ladies have advice for me? Maybe you've been pregnant before and know what I'm talking about? Or have known someone who's been pregnant or just know what it's like to have psycho hormones... ?
I have a very close friend who is about 10 weeks pregnant with her first baby. She feels sick all the time, she's tired all the time, and she's starving all the time. Yet somehow she always smiles, and even when she's "PMSing", she manages to keep her mood under control.
let your doctor know how your feeling in regard to the "everyone annoys me" thing :)
have you started your prenatal vitamins yet?
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I was really sick with my first daughter and I lost a bunch of weight until about my 7th month then BAM, I gained 30 pounds! Yes everyone annoyed me BIG time, lol but everyone made it through alive and well.
My second pregnancy was easy, hardly any sickness after the 3rd month or so.
You will be ok, just be glad your eating, there is another life inside you that needs nutrition, he/she is depending on you.
My daughter is expecting her first baby and she is going through the exact same thing as you. The mere existence of her husband bugs the heck out of her. Poor guy.
I am praying for you Pixy, for the whole situation, I know it's rough. My second pregnancy I did it alone...it's not easy but it's do-able.
Im still praying for you...I suppose while im at it I'll ask this question.
Being a younger man I was very combative..no big surprise right, lol I mean I was fresh out of the Marine Corps agressive. I come aloooooong way sence than.
My ex wife was in the similar state of being crabby like Pixy is describing. Whats worse, before she had kids she was a sweet as can be, and very easy to get along with. She said things that wounded me deeply at the time, and it severly fractured our marriage to a point I dont think it ever recovered. Unfortunatly I don't believe I would know what I would do if I wound up in that situation again. Whats the God centered route for both?
4Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
8Love never fails.
@Rabbit
For both...time to dig deeper...pray, pray, pray, the Word, the Word, the Word! Okay, marine :nahnah: ...put on the armour of God and do battle in the spiritual...Don't add to the powers of darkness by doing battle with each other. What do you do if you're under attack and a battle buddy falters? Do you condemn and argue or do you encourage and build up in love? If someone is down do you leave them behind or stay and defend them? Put out a watch...secure your defenses...use God's battle plan....defeat the enemy. oorah!
Thank you all for replying. Just knowing that I'm not alone is encouraging. Part of the problem yesterday was that I hadn't really taken the time to pray and read my Bible (in which case I should not have been online!). I know the only way to get through this is w/ Jesus, but it's just so easy to get caught up in the emotions and whatnot... and homework/studying...
I have not been to the Dr. yet. I don't have insurance and can't afford to go actually. I'm attempting to apply for medicaid, but I have to have a Dr. fill out the paperwork. I've making some calls and praying, and hopefully will find a Dr. who is willing to accept some kind of payment plan or something for the first appointment.
As far as prenatal vitamins go, I can't take them because I have this genetic disorder where my body doesn't process iron correctly and can then accumulate too much of it. When you're not pregnant, this means that the excess iron can be stored in organs and damage them or cause them to shut down, but when you're pregnant, the excess iron can go straight to the baby and poison it. And there's a 50% chance that the baby has this same genetic disorder, which means that even if the baby gets a normal amount of iron from me, that it's body may not eliminate it properly and it might get poisoned anyway... which would result in miscarriage or stillbirth. And prenatal vitamins are loaded w/ iron... so they're actually a no-no for me. It's been under control for me, but now that I won't be having a monthly period, that is likely to change. So I'm trying to eat less iron so that I don't kill my baby.
It IS good that I'm eating and I'm learning how to manage my morning sickness so that I'm keeping most of my food down. I think that baby's favourite foods are rice krispies and tator tots. And I know that tator tots aren't healthy and I don't even normally eat them, but now I want them ALL the time. Smothered in mustard =)
Anyway, thank you all again for the encouragement and your continued prayers.
Pixy... I do not know about the health care climate in your area... but I know where I'm at there are a few clinics that pregnant or possibly pregnant women can go to receive prenatal care and pregnancy testing either free or with very little out of pocket cost.
I do not know if you have such clinics around where you are at however, at the very least, if you haven't already, buy some over the counter prenatal vitamins and start taking them daily. They aren't much more than regular vitamins and if you aren't pregnant they won't hurt you if you do take them as the dosage isn't as high as prescription vitamins can be.
Also, from being around an office full of women (with 4 of them pregnant at the same time at one point) if you find that the vitamins give you an upset stomach, take it at night before you go to bed... alot of the girls here say that worked for them.
Pixy, I had a thought..(other than the free/sliding scale clinics)...are you a full time student? Is there any insurance available through your school?
I am a full time student, but I don't think my school offers any kind of insurance. I looked on their website and couldn't find anything. When I'm on campus again on Monday, I'll stop by the information desk and ask, though.
What I think I'm going to do is go to one of those crisis pregnancy places. I've hesitated to do so because I'm afraid of seeing someone I know there (people from my parents' church volunteer there) and I haven't told my parents yet... And I'm scared to tell them because they have really bad tempers and have been violent w/ me in the past. I know it's not my fault since the baby was conceived through rape, but I don't think they'll see it that way. Anyway, maybe I'll go to one in a different county and maybe they can help me figure out what to do.
Part of the challenge here is that I need to find a doctor who handles high-risk pregnancies. I mean, it hasn't been labeled as high-risk yet, but from multiple conversations I've had w/ multiple doctors over the years, it's been made clear to me that if I were to ever get pregnant, it would be high-risk.
*sigh*
Thanks for the prayers and words of advice, ladies. You all are great and I'm blessed to be able to interact w/ you all.
Pixie, your hormonal mood swings are usually worse in the first couple of months, when your body suddenly shifts into pregnancy mode. After 3 months or so, you should be feeling MUCH better. Many people feel their best when pregnant (after morning sickness is over). Hang in there. This baby is a gift from God, no matter what the circumstances of conception. God has a plan and a purpose for each of us.
"The Lord called me before my birth. From within the womb he called me by my name...He said to me, `You are my servant'..." (Isaiah 49:1,3 TLB); "For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother's womb" (Psalm 139:13).
"Before we were born God knew we were to be. Certainly God never meant for us to be accidents of a momentary passion; that is man's sin. Every life is significant to Him for He died for that life. What a pity that we are to the place where we find babies in trash bins! This verse alone should tell us how very important we are in His plans. We were called, we were named and we were claimed, even before we were born! That's a wondrous thought and an awesome responsibility. "God created [us] in his own image...male and female he created [us]" (Genesis 1:27). We didn't come swinging into this world, with no purpose for being. "- Patricia Nordman
