Author	Thread: What do you think of a guy keeping all his ex's photo?
cmseeker10 View Profile History	What do you think of a guy keeping all his ex's photo? Posted : 28 Oct, 2010 05:12 AM Ladies I need your ideas about this. Here's what have been going on . He said he is ready for a serious relationtionship Been seeing and talking about it for quite long time. But why does he still have those pics on his laptop? What does this mean to you ladies? Does it mean it's not over yet? or ? Post Reply
View Profile History	What do you think of a guy keeping all his ex's photo? Posted : 28 Oct, 2010 05:27 AM He hasn't moved on. If you've moved on from someone, you don't want their pictures, and you take them off your laptop. It's that simple, and sugarcoated words don't change that. Always take more notice of actions than words. Run. Run far, far away from this guy. Post Reply
cmseeker10 View Profile History	What do you think of a guy keeping all his ex's photo? Posted : 28 Oct, 2010 05:53 AM @ cloudwatcher, Thanks and will remember that. It crossed my mind so many times though...this is a confirmation got to trust my instinc,it's a God given gift.. Keep coming ladies please... Post Reply
bcpianogal View Profile History	What do you think of a guy keeping all his ex's photo? Posted : 28 Oct, 2010 08:23 AM I think a good guideline is that once he's in a new relationship, the old pictures need to go...unless they are family portraits with children in them, and then they can stay -- but ONLY in private archives, never online. And perhaps those should be printed (or archived on a CD) and stored away somewhere, and the digital copies deleted. From what you said, though, it does sound like he hasn't moved on yet. Until he can move on and delete those pictures, be VERY careful with your feelings. In my own experience, my ex-boyfriend had posted (on Facebook) several pictures of the two of us. When he broke up with me in April, we talked about what to do with the pictures. They were on his account, so the only control I had was tagging or un-tagging myself in them. We agree to leave them up for the time being, but if it became awkward or uncomfortable (or if one of us began a new relationship with someone else), we would let the other person know that the pictures needed to come down. That specific thing didn't happen, as I've not been in a relationship since, but in late June, someone posted some comments on the pictures of us that insinuated that we might be back together...and since we were NOT back together, I didn't want my friends seeing those comments. I un-tagged myself immediately. A couple months later, he un-friended me on FB, so I don't know if the pictures are still on his profile or not. But they are NOWHERE to be seen on MY profile, which was my intention in un-tagging myself. I also confess that I saved the print-outs of the pictures that he sent me, along with the cards he gave me over our months of dating, and put them away in my "Treasure Box." If I do ever get in another serious relationship, I will most likely throw those away. However, they do have a bit of significance to me, since he was my first boyfriend...even though I've moved on emotionally, he played a pretty significant role in who I am now as opposed to who I was at this time last year. Sorry if all that rambling didn't make sense...just trying to give you some things to think about based on my own experiences! Post Reply
riveroflife1 View Profile History	What do you think of a guy keeping all his ex's photo? Posted : 28 Oct, 2010 09:18 AM sounds like he's struggling with the break up. I would say he needs time to heal and be alone with God, without interference. We always try to ease the pain, usually by finding someone else to take the spot of the ex. Not necessarily replace but have someone to communicate with...no one wants to feel alone or unwanted. I dont understand why there are people that do that...I mean, when it's over, it's over. I used to take the photos down and whatever else I needed to do so that I wouldnt think of that person. because for me, looking at the photos hurt to much. Just be his friend for now :) (just my opinion) Post Reply
cmseeker10 View Profile History	What do you think of a guy keeping all his ex's photo? Posted : 28 Oct, 2010 02:41 PM @bcpianogal,You're not rambling at all I uderstand everyword written in here and I thank you for it.I do keep pictures too but as soon as a new relationship starts I'll make sure they will not be seen on things I know the other person will be looking at.My ex did the same thing too kepping our pics together but deleted them all just recently because he has a new girlfriend and I know it's a sign that he has completely moved on..You're right sis,he's not completely moved on yet... Post Reply
cmseeker10 View Profile History	What do you think of a guy keeping all his ex's photo? Posted : 28 Oct, 2010 02:48 PM @river I feel the same too.Seeing those pics only gives pain not only to us but to those people we will date soon.I wonder why the guys are not responding on the same post I posted on ask the guys forum.Thanks for your input.yea right I should guard my feelings and take everything slowly.. Post Reply
marikashome View Profile History	What do you think of a guy keeping all his ex's photo? Posted : 28 Oct, 2010 05:07 PM If he has kids by this woman, I could understand him storing them somewhere for them to have later, but I can't imagine him wanting them out where he or others can see them, or on his computer, unless he's just too lazy or upset to remove them... which would probably also turn me off. Doesn't take much to drop them on an external device, and they'd stop taking his computer memory too. I could also understand if he had one or two. I have one of the guy I went to prom with (ick) but it's just another picture for me, and I see it about once every year or two. When I look at it, I laugh. So I could understand a scenario like that too. Anything past that would really bother me... and the more he might look at them or show them to others, or the more of them he has, the more concerned I'd become. Post Reply
View Profile History	What do you think of a guy keeping all his ex's photo? Posted : 28 Oct, 2010 07:12 PM I would need more information to make an accurate asessment, and the botom line is you know him better than we do. They are on his laptop, you said. Where? Does he has a wallpaper picture that comes up when he boots? Or are they in a sub-folder with a bunch of other sub-folders of other pictures he has taken? Does he look at them? Are they displayed other places or just his laptop? (i.e. on his phone, on the walls of his apartment/house) Is it just her, or him and her? Or him and her and kids? Him, her, and family? How did you find out they were on his laptop? Post Reply
cmseeker10 View Profile History	What do you think of a guy keeping all his ex's photo? Posted : 28 Oct, 2010 09:39 PM @ godslamb family photos would be fine for me but solo photos of ex's and pics of them two bothers me .I't been a long time already and one ex is married already but why are their pics still there. Well ,I found it out when he is showing me some pics of where he grew up.I don't know if he accidentally clicked on it or intende to show me .When I ask him who are those ,he just tell me a friend but seeing the pics I can see they were more than that. My thought is why don't he put it on a cd and kept it rather than leaving it that way.He has a separate folder for every friend's pics he had.So if he opens his documents you can see them all with names and dates ..Ok that's it waiting for your response sis. Post Reply
cmseeker10 View Profile History	What do you think of a guy keeping all his ex's photo? Posted : 28 Oct, 2010 09:45 PM @marikashome,thank a lot I appreciate your thoughts on this matter. To all of you God Bless. In Christ Love, Lissy Post Reply

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