Author	Thread: Men are simply complicated!
One_Sojourner View Profile History	Men are simply complicated! Posted : 1 Aug, 2011 11:58 AM Wife's Diary: Tonight, I thought my husband was acting weird. We had made plans to meet at a nice restaurant for dinner. I was shopping with my friends all day long, so I thought he was upset at the fact that I was a bit late, but he made no comment on it. Conversation wasn't flowing, so I suggested that we go somewhere quiet so we could talk. He agreed, but he didn't say much. I asked him what was wrong; He said, 'Nothin'..' I asked him if it was my fault that he was upset. He said he wasn't upset, that it had nothing to do with me, and not to worry about it. On the way home, I told him that I loved him. He smiled slightly, and kept driving. I can't explain his behavior I don't know why he didn't say, 'I love you, too.' When we got home, I felt as if I had lost him completely, as if he wanted nothing to do with me anymore. He just sat there quietly, and watched TV.He continued to seem distant and absent. Finally, with silence all around us, I decided to go to bed. About 15 minutes later, he came to bed. But I still felt that he was distracted, and his thoughts were somewhere else. He fell asleep - I cried. I don't know what to do. I'm almost sure that his thoughts are with someone else. My life is a disaster. Husband's Diary: Lawn mower wouldn't start, can't figure it out. Thought this was kinda funny and some of you might get a kick out of this:ROFL: Post Reply
View Profile History	Men are simply complicated! Posted : 3 Aug, 2011 08:28 AM I hope and pray to meet a man that could help me solve problems that arise. Seems Christian men should be able to do this as they are Suppose to be the head. Problem is they have so many problems themself that they can not solve, just want a woman to Listen. LOL :angel: Post Reply
hubbarddebra99 View Profile History	Men are simply complicated! Posted : 3 Aug, 2011 03:35 PM joke wasn't that funny, cause too TRUE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Men don't talk enough; okay, I admit woman sometimes talk too much, but it's the way we are. Reminded me a lot of my EX He was having Vietnam flashbacks, and problems with VA HE REFUSED TO TALK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I found out after we broke up, it wasn't as much my fault as I thought! If he had just talked to me! Post Reply
teach_ib View Profile History	Men are simply complicated! Posted : 3 Aug, 2011 08:24 PM I'm really surprised at all the stereotyping...I know many men who talk non-stop and women who will not open up at all. It really isn't so hard to stop and think about what or how someone else is thinking. You have to want to do it and for the sake of a relationship, you should want to gain an understanding of what affects your partner. This is the person you plan to spend your life with, you should want to know what makes them tick...or ticks them off. That's part of growing together. These are skills that are taught in the work place...people skills. We all come from different backgrounds and have different life experiences that influence us. An old saying is walk a mile in the other's shoes....when one stops and thinks about why someone may act the way they are, you might be better able to help the situation or prevent problems. Sometimes we all have to put our ego on the shelf and allow others an opportunity to help. Post Reply
Rabbit32 View Profile History	Men are simply complicated! Posted : 4 Aug, 2011 01:45 AM dont think it a function of how much a person talks but how they communicate and if its so easy how come so many people have a problem with it...especially the classic example in this thread. The woman wants the man to share his thoughts so she can maintain the connection, but he is purtubed about the lawn mower being broken, so hes in his fixing my lawn mower box and is working on that...this is where communication breaks down. Men dont communicate that they need a bit of space to work on a problem (emphasis on a soloution) and they also dont reassure a woman. Unless the woman is a small engine mechanic or knows of some other SOLOUTION talking about the problem just becomes more irritating, furthermore he may be trying not to think about the problem. Sometimes an engine when overheated needs a bit to cool, so what does profit a woman to keep driving...so why not relax and find something else to think about or do...He will return...why not (men) let them in a little, when your calm. They may be helpful in other ways, but it makes them feel included. Even still when I get emotional, its hard to remember what to do. A womans "shoes" dont come naturally, and therefore need to b learned and viceaverca. Post Reply
Asher_Aurelius View Profile History	Men are simply complicated! Posted : 4 Aug, 2011 02:36 AM This is awesome! Post Reply
nightfarmer View Profile History	Men are simply complicated! Posted : 4 Aug, 2011 04:53 AM NOT SURE if its always a woman thing or a man thing,,honestly its personality types not nesssisarily a diferance in sexes.. Ive seen both types in both men and women... i just know if you and your lady can have a totaly free flowing comunication about anything even if it is the lawn mower ..or the looks of a dress ,its absolutly awsome !!! a genuine interest in each other ,it was worth waiting for...:glow: looking for that again ,id call it true soulmates,, true blessing ...i could never live in the silance or want too. just my thoughts ,,,,(i wonder if its a part of being equaly yoked as well:glow: Post Reply
View Profile History	Men are simply complicated! Posted : 4 Aug, 2011 07:37 AM I agree with rabbit, when I get frustrated over a problem, the only person I want to talk to is someone who has the answer on how to fix it. I really hate it when people who don�t know what they are talking about try to speculate on what could be wrong. Of course what the husband could have done in this instance was simply tell his wife that he was having a problem with the lawnmower, and it was driving him crazy. This way the wife would know that it wasn�t something she had done, and not to press any further. Post Reply
View Profile History	Men are simply complicated! Posted : 5 Aug, 2011 10:09 AM I like this thread. Learned alot. I especially liked Teach_ib�s point of view. I too feel that too often we tend to stereotype men and women. She said, �I know many men who talk non-stop and women who will not open up at all.� How true. Just today I was talking with a woman, ranting and raving about my perspectives and she was obviously not listening, or perhaps trying to listen, but failing to. Today I learned something, something my friend called the KISS principle. I was going on and on about something again, and he told me the KISS principle stood for, �Keep it simple, stupid�. He said it in a playful way and not to offend. And I realized that it was true. So in my quest for "divergent" thinking, I have had to remember that some things are just simple. Everybody is different, which makes us unique, so I�m trying not to stereo-typically label people or psychoanalyze them too much. Post Reply
Rabbit32 View Profile History	Men are simply complicated! Posted : 5 Aug, 2011 02:06 PM Ecclesiastes 1: 9 History merely repeats itself. It has all been done before. Nothing under the sun is truly new. 10 Sometimes people say, �Here is something new!� But actually it is old; nothing is ever truly new. 11 We don�t remember what happened in the past, and in future generations, no one will remember what we are doing now. I like this verse because to me it shows that even though we are unique we are repetative by nature. Men and Women in general are not easy to figure out but they arent immposible. A man can have female speech patterns and the same for a woman. They are as is becasue the speech patterns are common to the vast majority of that gender, and please understand the meaning of my words. You (the reader) can look at it any way you want but there is a genral rythm to life, including men and women. :^) Post Reply
View Profile History	Men are simply complicated! Posted : 5 Aug, 2011 03:18 PM I think the reason we don't talk about problems is because we don't want to dwell on it, we just want to move on. If we see our wife or gf is sad we can ask 100 questions and spend 3 hours trying to figure out what the one little thing is that's wrong and probably cause the relationship to take a turn for the worse, or find something to do that makes you happy and forget about what's eatin ya. Ah, that might be were it goes askew: men are doers women are thinkers? If you ever want to hear guys talk non-stop like girls with there girlfriends, bring up the NFL or college football. Ace in the hole. Funny but good post :glow: Post Reply

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