Author	Thread: Preferances, and Standards
Rabbit32 View Profile History	Preferances, and Standards Posted : 25 Jun, 2011 06:55 PM I would like to know what you ladies think about these two words? Do you feel they are the same? What does the bible have to say about selecting a mate? Im not downing anyones preferance so please dont take it like that, and please dont take it personally if someone challeges it, which is not the purpose of this thread, I am seeking understanding :) Post Reply
paschen81 View Profile History	Preferances, and Standards Posted : 25 Jun, 2011 08:07 PM standards are NOT the same as preferences. standards are "must meet" criteria for even entertaining the idea of entering a relationship with a person. An example of a standard is: being christian (to be evenly yoked) a preference is a "personal opinion" criteria that is not required but preferred when entertaining the idea of entering a relationship. This is where most of the "what I'm looking for in a mate" criteria fall unfortunetly. We humans (I, myself included)can tend to be shallow carnal creatures who look at what are truly preferences and confuse them with standards. We focus on traits be it physical or personality that are not true standards and end up getting hung up over trying to find that "one perfect person" while overlooking people who may not fit our "preferences" but meet all necessary standards perfectly and miss out on the possibility of having a great (though granted not perfect) lifelong relationship. *steps off soapbox* *grin* Post Reply
Rabbit32 View Profile History	Preferances, and Standards Posted : 25 Jun, 2011 08:50 PM Do you ever wonder if we found that "one person" that fit all of our preferences, they would look at you and pass you up (you being the one reading this) :) Post Reply
tuesdayof88 View Profile History	Preferances, and Standards Posted : 26 Jun, 2011 07:14 AM I think you're confusing two different topics with that. Standards are things that have to be met - e.g. we have to get along/suit each other Preferences are things we prefer - e.g. I prefer blondes over brunettes What you're asking in these second post is do people believe all of their preferences or standards will be met in their partner? No - You have to decide what you can and can't live with. For me, someone who doesn't enjoy sports is not going to make it past the friends basket, because I want someone who enjoys running with me. But if they aren't as into their art as I am, I can live with that. Post Reply
paschen81 View Profile History	Preferances, and Standards Posted : 26 Jun, 2011 10:00 AM Rabbit32 says "Do you ever wonder if we found that "one person" that fit all of our preferences, they would look at you and pass you up (you being the one reading this) :) " Actually... I HAVE been passed up by a person who fit all of my preferences... I've learned over the years that the people who fit my usual preferences are NOT the people in which I fit into theirs! Does this mean I'm destine to be alone my whole life? makes ya wonder LOL Post Reply
Rabbit32 View Profile History	Preferances, and Standards Posted : 27 Jun, 2011 04:49 PM Ii think thats exactly it, I wonder if too many ppl are confusing standards with preferences, therfore becoming there own roadblock to being married. My standards contrict my option tight enough where to many preferances will leave me with no options. The one biblical standard alone "not being unequally yoked cuts, probably 90% of the human population. Even still, one must discern if a person that confesses Christ really is a Christian. Other biblical standards is staying away from a hot tempered person, gluttons etc... (which both Chistian and non Christian can have these traits)..to top it all off I have the difficult task of finding someone who will love my children, and be their mom...than there is physical attractivness. For whatever reason there needs to be an attracivness to a woman other wise the heart never gets involved (Attraction by realistic standards, not the medias) Post Reply
View Profile History	Preferances, and Standards Posted : 1 Jul, 2011 04:44 PM Preferences is what we desire to have. Standards are what God wants for us as a Christian. Putting Christ first, living a Christian lifestyle. Often times men/women get these confused when seeking a mate. Many on datesites are superficial, looking for perfection.:angel: Post Reply
uniquecrystalheart74 View Profile History	Preferances, and Standards Posted : 13 Jul, 2011 07:21 AM For me, Standard is something that you will not change no matter what happens. Like no matter how very handsome, how very rich, how very intelligent a person is, if he doesn't have a personal relationship with GOD... he will not go to the Relationship possibility. Also the guy should want children. While Preferences is something that you can compromise and not really like a requirement before you have a relationship with a person. Like I prefer a guy who can sing because I love to sing but if I meet a guy who can't, it is okay. He can just play the guitar and I can sing, hehehe(^_^) Preferences are something you can work together if you or the other person don't have it. Post Reply