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DEEDEE72 View Profile History	THAT IS JUST THE WAY I AM AND YOU WILL HAVE TO LEARN TO DEAL WITH IT!! Posted : 26 Sep, 2010 06:40 PM I just watched "Letter's to Juliette." (so dissappointing). The main characters' fiance was opening a business and did not have time to buy her a ring or spend any time with her. The movie is about a "pre honeymoon" they went on and he just kept doing things for his new business. At the end of the movie when she broke up with him he told her that is who he is and basically if she wanted to be with him that is what their life would be like. I know some guys may jump on this as the woman not understanding how important the business is and how crucial the time was. You would need to watch the movie to see this guy was overboard. My question is how set are you in your ways? Are you willing to make changes for when the Lord sends him/her into your life? How far are you willing to go with those changes? Post Reply
bcpianogal View Profile History	THAT IS JUST THE WAY I AM AND YOU WILL HAVE TO LEARN TO DEAL WITH IT!! Posted : 26 Sep, 2010 06:57 PM I just watched that movie tonight too! It wasn't as good as I'd hoped, but neither it was it as bad as it could have been. The fiance guy was definitely overboard on the selfishness. At first, I thought that Sophie was being selfish for not understanding that the trip was partially for the purpose of letting him meet suppliers, etc., but once he'd dragged her around to a couple places, then wanted to go to MORE places, I saw her point of view. Now, to answer your question...I don't think I'm very set in my ways. Sometimes, I even feel like I've been putting my life on hold because I keep hoping that one day Mr. Right will walk into my life. I don't have long-term plans. My goals are simple: I want to meet a wonderful Christian guy, eventually get married, have a couple kids, and serve God through music. Those are pretty flexible goals, I think! Post Reply
View Profile History	THAT IS JUST THE WAY I AM AND YOU WILL HAVE TO LEARN TO DEAL WITH IT!! Posted : 26 Sep, 2010 07:03 PM How set are you in your ways? Not very. Except for faith and values - things like that. Are you willing to make changes for when the Lord sends him/her into your life? Absolutely. I expect to. It is one of the things that happens when two people come together as man and wife. How far are you willing to go with those changes? Within normal, logical bounds. Post Reply
SilverFire View Profile History	THAT IS JUST THE WAY I AM AND YOU WILL HAVE TO LEARN TO DEAL WITH IT!! Posted : 26 Sep, 2010 07:04 PM What kind of changes do you mean, exactly? That's a pretty broad word subject to endless debate. God won't bring me a wife who is a Satanist, let's say, so changes that radical (surrendering my faith) are not gonna happen. On the other hand, do I really care where the toothpaste is located or what kind of TP I use? Not really. Post Reply
DEEDEE72 View Profile History	THAT IS JUST THE WAY I AM AND YOU WILL HAVE TO LEARN TO DEAL WITH IT!! Posted : 26 Sep, 2010 07:10 PM Give some examples of "normal logical bonds"? Post Reply
riveroflife1 View Profile History	THAT IS JUST THE WAY I AM AND YOU WILL HAVE TO LEARN TO DEAL WITH IT!! Posted : 27 Sep, 2010 11:07 AM I think I am very flexible in alot of ways and I can adapt to anything. We need to be the same denomination or at least believe the same ways. It just wouldnt work out otherwise. The differences are to great. I believe in miracles, deliverance, tongues and other stuff. So many christian men do not and I cannot imagine being with someone who didnt and "to agree to disagree" on these things just wont cut it for me. Did that make sense? So me and a cessationist would not be good together, lol Riveroflife1 Post Reply
DEEDEE72 View Profile History	THAT IS JUST THE WAY I AM AND YOU WILL HAVE TO LEARN TO DEAL WITH IT!! Posted : 27 Sep, 2010 11:13 AM Yes I understand...To think a woman will attend her husbands church and her children will be raised in a "religion/denomination" that she does not agree with Post Reply
View Profile History	THAT IS JUST THE WAY I AM AND YOU WILL HAVE TO LEARN TO DEAL WITH IT!! Posted : 27 Sep, 2010 11:27 AM I think we also need to be willing to alter are lifestyles if needed. For example, a friend of mine told me that because of her husband's job, they were constantly being relocated. So she and her husband decided sometime after they were married that it might be better for to be a stay at home wife. She says that at first, she was a little bitter with not being able to have a career of her own, and having to take care of children. But as her children grew, she started to appreciate the fact that she was able to be there for them. Post Reply
View Profile History	THAT IS JUST THE WAY I AM AND YOU WILL HAVE TO LEARN TO DEAL WITH IT!! Posted : 27 Sep, 2010 06:28 PM Examples of normal logical bounds? Having to rellocate within California Changing how often I go grocery shopping Changing the way I spend my time so I can do things/spend time with my husband Change the cleaning products I use I'm only coming up with little ones, but those are all my tired brain can think of right now Post Reply