Author	Thread: acting out of feelings
anyann View Profile History	acting out of feelings Posted : 12 Oct, 2010 03:25 AM have you ever felt like a doormat..how have you cured the feeling? Post Reply
View Profile History	acting out of feelings Posted : 12 Oct, 2010 08:34 AM By setting Boundaries for myself and sticking with them, or separating myself from the situation or person. Read the Boundaries book if you have not already... it will bless you big time Post Reply
riveroflife1 View Profile History	acting out of feelings Posted : 12 Oct, 2010 09:37 AM instead of reacting I just let time go by so that I can give it to Papa. Post Reply
View Profile History	acting out of feelings Posted : 12 Oct, 2010 10:14 AM I ask God to take that feelings away and help me to see through His eyes, acts like He acts, love like He loves. The process wouldn't take just a second but eventually the pain and hatred would start getting less and lesser.. If you are going through one, I'm praying for your heart's healing, sister :) Post Reply
cowgirl1984 View Profile History	acting out of feelings Posted : 12 Oct, 2010 11:27 AM I was a major doormat most of my life. It's hard to tell someone how to stop being one. It's kind of something you have to learn I guess. But the biggest thing is to learn to say no. Start with saying no when you feel uncomfortable with what someone is saying or asking. If they really care about you, they won't get angry or be rude. Sometimes if it's someone who cares about you might still get angry or cranky about it if they are accustomed to you giving in all the time, but if you stay strong all the time, they will learn new patterns and eventually stop walking all over you. If someone doesn't care about you and was only using you, you're better off with them being mad at you than being their doormat anyway. But definitely pray like everyone else is saying. It's hard to break out of that cycle, but you will be better for it and people will respect you more once you have established new patterns. I had to learn that I was just as responsible for being used as the people who were using me. It starts and stops with us doormats :) Post Reply
paschen81 View Profile History	acting out of feelings Posted : 12 Oct, 2010 10:15 PM I don't usually feel like a doormat unless I've been really run down with all the stressors of managing everything... however normally I don't "feel" like a doormat... I just am one and keep plugging along the best I can. Post Reply
DEEDEE72 View Profile History	acting out of feelings Posted : 13 Oct, 2010 03:42 AM I used to be this way for many years. I had to seperate myself from people for a while. Not a good thing. I felt so guilty when I said no. When someone had a problem I thought it was my responsibility to fix it. I actually read Boundaries in Marriage and People Pleasers and it changed my life. I still feel guilt when I say no, but I know that saying no is the right thing. I also realized that I could not hide from people God knows we need each other to survive this Christian walk Post Reply
View Profile History	acting out of feelings Posted : 13 Oct, 2010 01:51 PM Good word Dede Post Reply