Author	Thread: TO TELL THE TRUTH?
DEEDEE72 View Profile History	TO TELL THE TRUTH? Posted : 18 Oct, 2010 03:50 PM I was listening to the rest of the sermon series on the Song of Solomon. One of his points was as a couple you should have 1 airing out session. Let the person know about your past examples..sextual abuse, jail time, .... Or is your past your past? Would you want to know? http://dbcmedia.org/sermons/love-song-a-study-in-the-song-of-solomon/?st=shopp&s=love%20song Post Reply
View Profile History	TO TELL THE TRUTH? Posted : 18 Oct, 2010 04:22 PM I would want to know. I'd feel pretty bad if I found out later on 2nd hand; especially if it were someone TRYING to make me feel like I don't know my man. I wouldn't need to know all the details, but an overview would be good. Way into the relationship, of course. Post Reply
View Profile History	TO TELL THE TRUTH? Posted : 18 Oct, 2010 04:54 PM Deedee this would be a great post for "ask a guy" section! Post Reply
DEEDEE72 View Profile History	TO TELL THE TRUTH? Posted : 18 Oct, 2010 05:04 PM Two Sparrows...Done!! Post Reply
riveroflife1 View Profile History	TO TELL THE TRUTH? Posted : 18 Oct, 2010 06:19 PM yes, I would want to know everything. Post Reply
bcpianogal View Profile History	TO TELL THE TRUTH? Posted : 18 Oct, 2010 06:37 PM I've heard that one "airing out session" is a good idea, and I agree. I also think that once the dirty laundry has been aired out, there is no reason to do it again. My personal opinion is that this shouldn't happen before the couple is very serious about each other. Perhaps sometime shortly after they are engaged, or before the engagement depending on the situation and the particular couple. By the time a couple gets to the "airing out" point, though, I would hope that both trust each other enough, and know enough about each other, that there would be no really shocking surprises. Still, it would be good to have a designated time to get everything out in the open. If there is something in the past that would seriously hinder the relationship, it is FAR better to find out before the wedding. Post Reply
cowgirl1984 View Profile History	TO TELL THE TRUTH? Posted : 18 Oct, 2010 11:15 PM I agree with BC. I already answered in detail over in Ask a Guy Post Reply
View Profile History	TO TELL THE TRUTH? Posted : 19 Oct, 2010 02:18 PM I dunno about this one...I have mixed feelings on this topic. Mostly because I am not sure I see the Godly profit in it ..on a spiritual level. However I just read a book called I DO and some of it covered this very topic...and the Pastor seems to think you can never know enough about someone before marriage. But I still do not see that lining up with the word of God , scripture wise...because once forgiven it is forgotten of the Lord..never to be brought back again ...though the adversary sure does his best ...but I am not sure spewing garbage of past sin, and your old life...into someone's mind is apart of planting good seed...and I do not care what anyone says..when people start tellign you bad things...you start to think on those things...Almost like it gets on you..brr.. I want to see my partner as Christ does with the eyes and heart of Christ humm..good topic Post Reply
cowgirl1984 View Profile History	TO TELL THE TRUTH? Posted : 19 Oct, 2010 06:57 PM @Mercy. It may be forgiven and forgotten on a spiritual level, but sin can have physical consequences that can follow you for the rest of your life and affect your marriage or affect your future together, even though it has been forgiven by God. Post Reply
View Profile History	TO TELL THE TRUTH? Posted : 16 Dec, 2010 06:24 PM Amen, Mercygrl!! Post Reply