Author	Thread: Is the idea of becoming a Pastors wife scary to most woman?
Futurepastor2010 View Profile History	Is the idea of becoming a Pastors wife scary to most woman? Posted : 30 Nov, 2010 11:02 AM Is the idea of becoming a Pastors wife scary to most woman? Do most women shy away from someone if they know that person is going into the ministry full time? Is it just because they themselves are not called, or is it the thought itself that scares them? This is the last question I promise! lol Would you date a person that was going into the ministry and why. or why not? To all the Ladies that reply, Thank You and God Bless You! Post Reply
View Profile History	Is the idea of becoming a Pastors wife scary to most woman? Posted : 30 Nov, 2010 11:57 AM Is the idea of becoming a Pastors wife scary to most woman? *** I don�t know bout most women but do know that some women are not cut out for this�I personaly don�t find it scary & would welcome it� Do most women shy away from someone if they know that person is going into the ministry full time? *** don�t know bout most women�I have a Gent friend that has been called to Ministry. I am very happy for him & his new wife of 6 months� Is it just because they themselves are not called, or is it the thought itself that scares them? *** don�t know�do know that wives of Pastors/Ministers are called for a Mutual purpose otherwise they wouldn�t be wives of Pastors/Ministers� Would you date a person that was going into the ministry and why. or why not? *** Of course I would�Never know what GOD has instore for those that meet in the presance of the Lord Jesus*. Ifin it aint evenly Yoked & Mutual would be the only Why not�xo Post Reply
View Profile History	Is the idea of becoming a Pastors wife scary to most woman? Posted : 30 Nov, 2010 12:37 PM My dad was a pastor, and I can tell you from experience that the wife will be dragged into the ministry, whether she likes it or not. It might be a little different if you have a very large church, but for a small church, it�s definitely a team effort. I would look for someone who is called to be a pastor�s wife. Otherwise you are going to run into problems. Post Reply
hubbarddebra99 View Profile History	Is the idea of becoming a Pastors wife scary to most woman? Posted : 30 Nov, 2010 12:53 PM well, i'd havta be REAL in love with the man!!!!!!!!! It's not searving God that scares me, it's being judged by others in the church!!!!! That's why I have always tried to be super nice and kind, and minister to my pastors wives! (each pastor had one wife, ha-ha) Others can judge so harshly. It can be scarry! Post Reply
View Profile History	Is the idea of becoming a Pastors wife scary to most woman? Posted : 30 Nov, 2010 01:32 PM My mom actually told my dad when they were dating that she did not want to be a pastor�s wife. I understand, since it seems that, like others have said, you get dragged in right along with him whether you like it or not. While it is wonderful to serve, not all people are cut out to be in the center of attention. From what I�ve seen of people in my church, the man does his life�s calling of teaching and reaching out, while the wife is busy cooking and cleaning for everybody who comes over for ministry, and gets pulled into all kinds of other services she might not be ready for like driving older members places and being a bed and breakfast proprietor at any given moment. And she absolutely cannot say no to anybody for anything. For my family, I am very thankful that my mom told this to my dad, because he would have been a terrible pastor and led many astray (long story). If I knew it was the man�s goal to be a pastor, personally I would not be very attracted by the idea. LOOKING for a position of spiritual leadership would, to me, potentially signal naivete or a desire for power/admiration. I say this because leadership is hard, and something that you are chosen for, not necessarily something you train and study for with that goal in mind unless, like I said, you want a position of power or respect. That is all just my own opinion. Post Reply
View Profile History	Is the idea of becoming a Pastors wife scary to most woman? Posted : 30 Nov, 2010 01:35 PM Yes I would "date" a person that would go in to full time ministry. Yes I do think the idea of being a pastors wife is scary. It is just the thought that is scary. Post Reply
View Profile History	Is the idea of becoming a Pastors wife scary to most woman? Posted : 30 Nov, 2010 03:23 PM For me, no the idea is not scary, maybe because I was a PK, and also saw what my mom did. So I have a good idea what it would be like as a Pastor's wife. If you are called into serving full time ministry, then yes, it would be wise to make sure whoever you are dating is aware of this. As some have already said, not all women are cut out to be the wives of pastors. @ Hubbard, thanks for treating the wives with love and respect. I guarantee that it makes them feel like someone has their back. Post Reply
MargoSolo View Profile History	Is the idea of becoming a Pastors wife scary to most woman? Posted : 30 Nov, 2010 06:10 PM I used date a guy who was thinking about going into the ministry. I am convinced he will a Pastor someday. We were talking about marriage at the time and I approached our Pastor's wife for her 2c. This is surprising, but she said you really don't have to have "a calling", that all you really need to do is is love your husband. Give Him the support He needs and serve with Him. She said it isn't easy, but out of love for her husband, she took the role. She said a funny thing happened. Because of her love for the Lord, and love for her husband, his ministry became hers as well. She was stretched into other ways of serving and relating to people she never saw herself doing. I don't think it would be scarry, but I do think it would be a challenge. Post Reply
riveroflife1 View Profile History	Is the idea of becoming a Pastors wife scary to most woman? Posted : 30 Nov, 2010 06:14 PM for most women, I would say Yes because it's alot of sacrifice. For me, no and its a long story...but the answer is no. Post Reply
bcpianogal View Profile History	Is the idea of becoming a Pastors wife scary to most woman? Posted : 30 Nov, 2010 06:52 PM Is the idea of becoming a Pastors wife scary to most woman? I don't know about most women, but it is scary to me. I'd willing do that if I felt that it was God's will for my life, though. My best friend was adamant that she didn't want to be a pastor's wife...guess what -- her husband is in seminary now, and she's dedicated to his ministry. She found that she had a true change of heart when she realized and accepted what God's will was for her. Do most women shy away from someone if they know that person is going into the ministry full time? Depends on what kind of ministry he is going into. I've known a lot of guys who think that they are going to be full-time youth pastors, or full-time music ministers...those jobs are few and far between. Most of those jobs are either volunteer or very part-time. I would want him to have a regular full- or part-time job in addition to that ministry. Is it just because they themselves are not called, or is it the thought itself that scares them? Could be either one, depending on the woman. Would you date a person that was going into the ministry and why. or why not? It would depend on the ministry, the guy, and the situation. Post Reply
View Profile History	Is the idea of becoming a Pastors wife scary to most woman? Posted : 30 Nov, 2010 08:01 PM Being a Pastor's wife scary? Stepping out in faith is always a bit scary for me. But I know from past experience if God calls and makes it clear it is His will --- I will be able to do whatever it is. I don't shy away from full-time ministry. I have done it part-time. I don't know what it would be like to do it full time with a husband, but if that was God's will and I was sure of it --- I would do it. Yes, I would date someone going into the ministry, all other things being equal. Example: he seemed compatible in all other ways, we had things in common, he asked me :laugh:, -- you get the idea. Post Reply

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