I would like the gentleman to be very honest and speak from the heart. I don't believe that it is too forward to tell someone you have feelings for them....you feel what you feel and have every right to express that...I would just do it in a gentle way.
I am assuming by the way you worded your question, that you have never really met/been introduced. So, that answer is easy. Be friendly. Be careful not to be in "her personal space" til invited (just like you would be unconfortable if a girl was 'right in your face' that you didn't know) Just introduce yourself! ya gotta start somewhere!
This fits in my convoluted brain to some musings from today. All through the day, I have run into men. Today was the doctor, dentist, grocery store, pharmacy, etc. day...where I try to pack everything into one day so don't have to miss too much work. Anyway, it started with pulling into an icy parking lot. An elderly gentleman stopped by my car and when the locks popped up, he opened the door for me. WOW!! Then, at the door to the complex, another elderly gentleman opened the door. Sitting in the waiting room, a man and his wife (if they were a day under 80, I am the next Miss America) struck up a conversation with me. He was so sweet to her and then to me. The day in town started at 8:45 and ended around 4. I don't think I opened a single door. Every man I ran into had something kind or sweet to say. The butcher at Sam's Club even invited me back to learn how to roast chickens...how cool is that? (ok, yes, I love learning, but now I also digress).
Today made me wonder if the gentlemen my age and younger have the manners of those elderly gentlemen I met today. Those men were rather fragile and some might say their best days were over, but their good manners, gentleness, and kindness made that so unimportant. I also thought how wonderful it would have been if one of those gentlemen who had opened a door and then struck up a conversation in the various locations today had been somewhere around my age. So...there is the answer to your question. Be polite, open the door, visit in a nonthreatening way with a lady you are interested in in any of the multitude of places you may meet her. And even if the lady you hold the door for is 90, she will appreciate the gesture. And who knows, your future love might just be watching and have her heart melt because of your chivalry.
I like a guy to have read my profile, and then send me a message (or a wink first, followed by a message) that shows he read my profile and was interested in what I had to say. In his message he would leave me with a few things about himself, as well as one or two questions that I can respond to if I like. Anywhere from 3-10 sentences -- nothing too wordy or detailed. Enough to start a conversation.
Personally I would be more responsive if I was approached by someone who tends to go in the chat rooms . Ive had many weird and wonderful approached by those who just zoom in on an IM and assume that you have known them all your life, to winks ....(i never know what to do about them ) ..to emails that profess their underlying love for me...(a passport into the UK !!)
On line dating and relationships are a good way of actually getting to know someone...before dating ..
To answer yout question...As we like you guys are all individuals and unique....I think there is no set answer to your question....thats why I believe that getting to know someone in the chat room first gives a foundation so that when you do approach in whatever form you choose...the recipient will know and trust it is genuine.
Sorry to ramble on...and i hope you have found this helpful
Thankyou all for your responses. Sadly at this point in time there is no one in particular that I wanted to approach but when the day comes (obviously in Gods timing) I'll be a little more in the know. God bless ya'll
I absolutely will concur with Eliza on something. The older men most definitely know where it's at in being a �gentleman�. I will also add though, that older women know how to be gracious �ladies�.
Approaching a woman in a Godly way simply requires that you BE a gentleman. A gentleman does not put on an ACT of a gentleman, he simply �IS�. A gentleman does not do gentlemanly things in order to expect something or an outcome to benefit him as a result. He does it simply because it is the right thing to do at all times. His very being is that of �honest intent�. He does it with �gentle strength�.... not that of a pushover. He does not even worry whether a woman will respond to his approach. In essence, a gentleman really doesn't care if she responds or not. The reason why he should not care, is because, many times these days, a lot of women do not know how to actually be a �lady�. They have just as much lost the art, or not been taught in being one, as many men have lost the art in being a gentleman. It is now a �chicken/egg� world that's been wrought with gender line crossings as a result of secular feministic teachings. It's up to the man, whether he believes so or not, to REESTABLISH �code of honor� between the male/female relationship. You will never go wrong in just BEING a gentleman, even if a woman does not respond to it. You do it NEVER to please a woman.... You do it to please GOD. In the end.... I think you will find that the right woman will find that there is something �different� about you and your 'aire', and respond because you simply ARE........
Godly way? Well, the Word says to be friendly if you want friends and thats all a guy has to do. Women know if a man is attracted to them by the body language displayed when they come up to speak. Whether here online or in person just be yourself and start talking, see if there are any common interests.
Wrong way for me? A lustful approach. (Happens alot) "Hey, baby, what's yo name?" Hate being called baby by nikkas who don't know me.:boxing:
Being yourself is cliche but that jazz is the best approach to me because you are in position to find the best match for yourself. Someone who will like, eventually love you for you. I think trying to 'find' a way to approach is the wrong answer, just do it how it comes natural.
