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DontHitThatMark View Profile History	Made, makes, will make... Posted : 18 Feb, 2010 07:21 AM Just curious. I know this might be a touchy subject for some, but I was just wondering what makes romance/attraction/love tick. What do/did you see in your romantic interests that brought you together? What do you see in potential interests...like, just people you know that you could be romantically involved with? I guess the simple version is, what causes different people to enter into relationships? :peace::peace: Post Reply
View Profile History	Made, makes, will make... Posted : 18 Feb, 2010 07:40 AM Nothing wrong with what you said. I like to find common interest with a lady. I do like the theater, my hobby railroading, some sports and nice walks. Finding a cute little honey that likes those same things is my goal.Dennis Post Reply
DontHitThatMark View Profile History	Made, makes, will make... Posted : 18 Feb, 2010 09:52 AM Good answers, but I was kinda thinking more about what would cause people to actually take that step into a relationship? I have friends I share a lot of interests with, and I guess those could have been what it was for you...I dunno...for me it was the fact that I didn't feel alone around her at all...like...we were actually really trying to understand each other, instead of just enjoying each others company. I'm not sure if that's exactly it, but thats what it feels like. It just made me curious about what magical moment happens when someone decides "I want to be in a relationship with this person, and I don't want to be separated from them by anything"...just wondering if it was/is/will be the same for anyone else I guess. What is it that makes a person decide that they can't live without someone? :peace::peace: Post Reply
bcpianogal View Profile History	Made, makes, will make... Posted : 18 Feb, 2010 11:28 AM OK, I might have a hard time putting this into words, but I'm going to try. I've had a lot of guy friends over the years, but never dated any of them. And they were never interested in me that I knew of, so the road goes both ways there. Sometimes the lack of interest came from what I DID know about the person, such as his background, dating history, personality, etc. I might have gotten along fine with him as a friend, but I would not have been happy as his girlfriend or wife. There have been times when I met a guy, liked him, and thought I was interested in him, but as I got to know him as a friend, I found out that he was not as wonderful as I first believed. Now, how to decide to enter a relationship (beyond friendship)...I'm in my first relationship right now! For me, it was a combination of similar interests, goals, values, and backgrounds that initially attracted me to the guy (we met online). Once we moved our relationship offline, it was a lot different. We still had all that in common, but there was the physical factor thrown in there. Our personalities clicked right off, we just really enjoyed spending time together, and I think there was physical attraction as well. And all that has continue and grown, rather than lessened, as we've gotten to know each other. Once things "click" in all the right areas, I think that sometimes there is that _choice_ that has to be made. Either, "Yes, I'm willing to date this person with the understanding that it might lead to marriage," or "No, I'm not really all that interested in this person after all." It also (for me at least) has to do with the slightly weird thought of "Can I see myself still with this person in 1 year? 5 years? 25 years? 50 years?" So those are my rambling thoughts...hope they made a little sense! Post Reply
DontHitThatMark View Profile History	Made, makes, will make... Posted : 18 Feb, 2010 01:08 PM Yeah...that's probably another general sign...that no matter how much time you spend together you always want more... :peace::peace: Post Reply
skinnywhiteboy View Profile History	Made, makes, will make... Posted : 18 Feb, 2010 02:04 PM For me there comes a time when you realize that no matter how the relationship ends, you want to give it a try, and you can't stop thinking about it. There's a definite line where you're willing to trade what you already have, a solid connection with someone, for the CHANCE at making it work romantically. In my personal life, once you cross the line into relationship, I've never been able to get a friendship "back" afterwards Post Reply
GraceMae View Profile History	Made, makes, will make... Posted : 18 Feb, 2010 06:08 PM I think it's when something just feels right and both feel it. There's a certain comfortableness around each other, that may/may not be accompanied by butterflies in the stomach, nevervousness sometimes, etc.... Sometimes that has nothing to do with each others background, or education, or family... just something that clicks and it feels like maybe this could be a close intimate relationship. Also, when we are accepting of each other "just like we are", can make for a pretty comfortable and pleasurable experience being with one another like that. ~ GraceMae Post Reply
View Profile History	Made, makes, will make... Posted : 18 Feb, 2010 08:23 PM This might be hard to answer, and I think everyone will have their own take on it. I think it is a combination of things, that accumulate to the point where you just want to spend more time with someone and get to know them more, and introduce them to your friends, etc. Similar interests and values are important. Humor and faith - very important. Once it moves to face-to-face those things will either get deeper or the interest wil fade. I've had both happen. One man I met online last summer -- we clicked big time online. First meeting went great. Second meeting..... uh.... saw and heard lots of things that had not come out before. I realized it would never work and we went our separate ways. Post Reply
View Profile History	Made, makes, will make... Posted : 19 Feb, 2010 07:00 AM hmmm. i think i am too 'smart' to willingly enter i would have to fall. the x factor is what does it for me. not knowing why i love him but having it be a fact that i cannot apply logic to. i don't want to know why, i just want to love him nyanda Post Reply
View Profile History	Made, makes, will make... Posted : 20 Feb, 2010 04:42 PM falling in love is easy. it took me forever to realize that if you do fall for them, know that they'll catch you. so i don't even pay attention to infatuation stuff like that anymore until i can decide if i LIKE that person the way i like other people in my life. can we use communication to talk through issues or not? if they're likeable, and we can communicate well, and have a good sense of self (not too dependent, not too independent), then the rest is just icing on the cake. i don't go for just the icing anymore. Post Reply
View Profile History	Made, makes, will make... Posted : 21 Feb, 2010 07:22 AM I agree with everyone for the most part. Just thought I'd share my thoughts. There's definitely different combination of things that must mesh before making any form of commitments for me. What would make me ultimately decide to want to start a relationship with another person? I would say," A strong relationship with Jesus would be the biggest factor for me." I recently went out with some friends of mine from way back when. Anyway, a friend's little sister who recently just broke up with her long time boyfriend was with us. I was attracted to her physically and mentally. And I think she was too. But the determining factor for me to pursue the relationship would be," Does she have an intimate relationship with Jesus?" When I couldn't reply," Yes. She does," I decided to just be friends with her. I once read a survey years ago that 38% of married women were still lonely in their marriage. Wow! What? Wait a minute...Are you serious??? Even after someone has found their life partner, they would still feel lonely? That doesn't make sense...What gives, God???? I know that as a man in the relationship, I would try my best to see to her every needs. But I also know that there are some things in her life that only God could fulfill. It's definitely important for me to know that someone I could possibly live the rest of my life with will still have the same love, joy, and peace in her heart, despite us going through a tumultuous time in our relationship. Post Reply