Welcome to the forums. You did the right thing coming here - this is where it's at! Make sure you jump into the discussions elsewhere here on the boards.
Lynne, you're very cool - and don't let anyone tell ya differently.
Goldenstarfish; very,very seldom is lying "appropriate." I can understand if they were one age when they wrote their profile, and they've had a birthday or two since then - but ten years? I agree with Lynne- that is flat-out lying; I wouldn't touch them with a ten foot pole.
I wonder if it was just a typo though? Slipped, and hit the number beside? And they're not very computer literate, or just didn't look? I know there was some things on my profile that I either struggled to answer, or mistakes I missed and changed, but that wasn't lying. That was trying to find a description; they only give you three options here for "drinking" for example. I so rarely drink, I might as well put "non drinker", but I do have one if the circumstances are right - maybe every one or two years? That's not even casual drinking...
Ah - I could clarify that in my profile I guess?
anyway - in this instance, a ten year error? that's not a gray area. My only concern is if it's just an error. How did you find out they were a different age than they said?
Ouch! Sadly, yes - you should get out of that one. Even if he got back together with you and never did it again, that nagging distrust would always be there; and frankly, I wouldn't blame you!
It's unfortunate, but it happens. I won't go into details because this is the internet and I'd be concerned where this wound up, but let's just say I went through a similar situation - and kept going back for more, and she kept doing it to me. We'd been friends (and still are), so it made it a little tougher - not quite the same as your situation.
Secondly, if he's a christian, then he shouldn't be shacking up with anybody. That speaks volumes about his walk with the Lord - and this is a guy you just plain don't want to be with.
We all also have our "down" days where singleness is a drag - but on the other hand, don't forget - being single has its benefits. Don't let events take away those joys from you, and enjoy'em.
I'm not going to try to fix things here, cause frankly I think you already know all the answers - you're just here more to vent.
Ditto what Lydia said Alex. While I dated a single mom of three kids once (only serious relationship I ever had), and I have a *vague* idea of what you're dealing with, I'm not going to try to give advice - I will pray that the Lord gives you advice.
He knows best.
In the meantime - hey, thanks for sharing and keep on sharing.
Welcome to CDFF, and yes - jump into the discussions. It's a great fellowship here, it really is. It's a great way to know others and to be known, and if you live in the boondocks like I do, then that makes visiting here even better.
It's not Dorothy you gotta watch out for - it's her house!
