Author	Thread: How can you be so judgmental
ben315 View Profile History	How can you be so judgmental Posted : 28 Sep, 2010 10:00 AM How is it that a person can talk to someone for an extended period of time (sometimes 2+ months) without seeing I pic of me and tell me how much they like me, but as soon as I send them a pic or we meet they compltly stop talking to me? Since this is a christian dating site shouldn't you not be judging just on looks but on the actuall person. After all looks fade but personaltity is always there. Maybe thats why the divorce rate is so high is because people go to much on looks and not enough on the actuall person. Post Reply
Rabbit32 View Profile History	How can you be so judgmental Posted : 28 Sep, 2010 10:23 AM I dont know of too many men who won't post a pic. Is there any more information you can give us you're experience, it seems rather peculiar. :) Post Reply
View Profile History	How can you be so judgmental Posted : 28 Sep, 2010 11:23 AM You really shouldn't expect someone to chat with you for long time without a photo, they'll create an idea of what you look like. so if you are far from model looks, you just scrrewed yourself over by not having a photo. Post Reply
DEEDEE72 View Profile History	How can you be so judgmental Posted : 28 Sep, 2010 11:26 AM 1 Samuel 16:7b People judge others by what they look like, but I judge people by what is in their hearts (God) Post Reply
bcpianogal View Profile History	How can you be so judgmental Posted : 28 Sep, 2010 11:52 AM Call me shallow, but I usually won't even communicate (beyond what is necessary for politeness) with someone who doesn't have a picture of himself on his profile. I guess I figure that if I can put a picture up, so can the guy. Besides, it's not really fair to ask me to accept him based strictly on personality. Girls are not as visually oriented as guys are, but we still have our own ideas about what we like and what we don't. BUT, all that aside... If I did communicate for 2+ months with a guy who had no picture up, I think it's probably unlikely that I would immediately break off all contact once I did see a picture or meet him in person (unless I found he had lied about his age, race, body-type, etc...lying is never good no matter how trivial the deceit seems). I would at least give him a chance. If I did find his appearance to be a major hindrance in my desire to continue the relationship, I'd try to end the relationship sooner rather than later in an effort to hurt him as little as possible. But that's just me...other people are probably a lot different. I can't speak for them. Post Reply
View Profile History	How can you be so judgmental Posted : 28 Sep, 2010 12:07 PM If they're not physically attracted to you, why does that mean they have to be judgmental? I'm not trying to be mean, but let's not pretend like just because we're Christians, then we can't desire someone we're physically attracted to. It's not shallow, it's not mean, it's not judgmental; it's just real. 2+ months of talking or not, unless the words you speak are just a notch below the words of Christ or Solomon, then I'm gonna need to see what you look like. Everyone's got preferences, sweetheart.. Post Reply
View Profile History	How can you be so judgmental Posted : 28 Sep, 2010 01:59 PM Everyone's got preferences, including you. Does that make you judgmental too? Just trying to get you to think is all. People can't choose how they feel about other people when it really comes down to it and it's not fair to hold it against them even if it stinks. You just gotta shake it off and keep going. Post Reply
View Profile History	How can you be so judgmental Posted : 28 Sep, 2010 02:18 PM Sounds like Expectations...One Expecting someone to Accept them based on only Partial information...and When the Other one Finds that there Expectation is not what they Envisioned...well...Ya do what you do...Ya get what Ya get... Its not about being Judgmental...its about being Deceptive or Deceived...Which is Perceived as Withholding ( Lieing by Omission ) All the Information Required to make a Sound and Appropriate Decision...How can Anyone not Knowing what someone looks like be able to make a Sound Choice...for what ever Purpose that is� Everyone has their own reasons for No Picture...just like everyone doesn�t fill their Profile with a Page of Words� I have found I can communicate with people here that don�t have a picture posted and enjoy talking and sharing with them...but I could not conceder anything more than friendship if All the Cards aren�t laid out on the table... Men are Visual...So are Women...Beauty is in the Eye of the Beholder� Lust begins by Looking & Seeing...and a Healthy Balanced GOD Centered Relationship begins with total Open Honesty...Pictures included�xo Post Reply
View Profile History	How can you be so judgmental Posted : 28 Sep, 2010 08:07 PM This has happened to me in the past (not on this site). I never took it to mean they were judging me. I understood it in the way that I didn't fit their ideal of an attractive woman. We all have our likes and dislikes and preferences. You didn't meet hers. She should have be much more polite about it, but I would hesitate to read judgement into it. Post Reply
Tulip89 View Profile History	How can you be so judgmental Posted : 28 Sep, 2010 08:18 PM I think you'll be doing yourself a huge favor if you go ahead and post a picture. I mean, if they're not attracted to you, you'll save yourself the heartache and two months of time. If they are attracted, then you'll likely get a lot more, higher quality responses. Post Reply
Easter^ View Profile History	How can you be so judgmental Posted : 29 Sep, 2010 03:50 AM There are people in this world who are beautiful on the out side, but can be the ugly in the inside.. I thank God, Jesus did not come as a good looking man, knowing the human heart as he does.. Post Reply

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