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Rabbit32 View Profile History	Sensitive Subjects continued. Posted : 4 Jul, 2011 10:52 PM I really apreciate ya'll feedback, it help open my eyes and understand the mind of a woman, therfore equippiing me for present and future relationships :) I know the subject of physical appearance can offend some, but please don't take what I say personally, I am not pointing anyone out,, and really just seeking undestanding, for thats what a diserning heart does. Alot of you ladies brought up some really good points, one in particular that has aroused my inquisitive nature...do women feel they need to be attractive to everyone? Are they offended if a single man isn't into them? would any of you attempt a relationship with somone who didn't think you were pretty (or you could use your owv word here) thank so much :) Post Reply
i_live_in_canada View Profile History	Sensitive Subjects continued. Posted : 5 Jul, 2011 02:04 AM I think most ladies would assume the man found her attractive if he wanted to date her. If your asking if a lady would persue a man that showed no interest I wouldn't. If he was interested I would think it was in part my looks. After all I'm not that nice :devil: Post Reply
View Profile History	Sensitive Subjects continued. Posted : 5 Jul, 2011 06:39 AM Many women do feel they need to be attractive to Men. It is offensive, if the man I like isn't attracted to me. I go for men, who think I am very attractive. I do not want a man who Does not think I am attractive. Most men want a attractive Lady.lol Although, he does not have to be a handsome man.l I want a man who loves the Lord, that attracts to me. Christ first, wife then family. That Order! Post Reply
Nkatty View Profile History	Sensitive Subjects continued. Posted : 5 Jul, 2011 10:23 AM I personally dont expect every man to be smitten by my looks.....ehh!.....cause everyone has his/her taste....even when it comes to physical appearance!!! About dating a guy who does not find my looks appealing...if the guy speaks it out....it will be difficult for me to accept his advances!!.....plus i know i can tell if a guy does not find me appealing..... i am also visual....i wouldnt accept to date a guy whom i dont find appealing....both from the outside and inside! Post Reply
bcpianogal View Profile History	Sensitive Subjects continued. Posted : 5 Jul, 2011 10:38 AM OK, when answering this question, I'm going to assume that "attractive" = "physically attractive". I'm only dealing with outward appearances at the moment. Do women feel they need to be attractive to everyone? Personally, NO, I do not feel that I need to be attractive to everyone. I only need to be attractive to the man I marry. It would be nice, I suppose, if other people think I look nice, since I do try to present myself in an attractive yet modest way. But everyone has different tastes in appearances, and I'm sure that there are lots of people who wouldn't like the way I look. Are they offended if a single man isn't into them? No, I wouldn't be offended if a single man isn't into me. Well, if he tells me how UNattractive I am, then I might get offended...but that would be the case no matter WHO told me I was unattractive! But if a single man isn't interested, I assume he doesn't find me attractive. And if I got offended every time a guy wasn't interested in me, I would be offended by 99% of the guys I know. Would any of you attempt a relationship with someone who didn't think you were pretty? The trouble with this question is that there isn't really a way to know if a man finds me pretty or not, at least not at first. If he asks me out, I would just assume that he likes the way I look. But on the assumption that a guy makes it clear that he doesn't think I'm pretty, yet he still asks me out anyway, then no, I would probably not attempt a relationship with him. It is true that I want him to see that there is more to me than just looks, and I want him to base his love on both inner and outer beauty, but if he finds me to be ugly physically, I believe that it would be a serious hindrance to the relationship and particularly to a marriage if it should go that far. Granted, he might initially be attracted to something about me other than my appearance, but I hope that I would become beautiful in his eyes if he is the right one for me. (I think I answered this confusingly...I hope it makes at least a little sense!) Post Reply
Rabbit32 View Profile History	Sensitive Subjects continued. Posted : 5 Jul, 2011 12:53 PM You ladies are wonderful thank you for sharing your heart...such an peculiar paradox, the desire to be loved for whats inside (your heart), but also to beautiful to the one you likke/love physically too. Atealst that is what I am hearing if i am hearing correctly :) Post Reply
bcpianogal View Profile History	Sensitive Subjects continued. Posted : 5 Jul, 2011 02:36 PM Yes, that's what you are hearing...we want to be loved for what's inside us as well as for the way we look. :angel: Ladies are VERY complicated, aren't we? lol Post Reply
Rabbit32 View Profile History	Sensitive Subjects continued. Posted : 5 Jul, 2011 04:37 PM I dont believe so, I think they at time coplicate things, or let the world complicate them, really men stand in agreeance with you. we want to love you women inside and out. Post Reply
Tulip89 View Profile History	Sensitive Subjects continued. Posted : 5 Jul, 2011 08:24 PM Is it really that different for us guys though? I want my future wife to find me physically attractive, but also be attracted to the rest of me as well. I don't think anybody out there would be completely ok with their spouse only finding one or the other attractive about them. Post Reply
bcpianogal View Profile History	Sensitive Subjects continued. Posted : 5 Jul, 2011 08:35 PM Tulip, you got that right. Absolutely right. Post Reply
paschen81 View Profile History	Sensitive Subjects continued. Posted : 5 Jul, 2011 08:36 PM Once again...I'm the odd ball out lol. While I'm not offended when people find me unattractive it does sometimes still bother me if they out and out make fun of me. however, where I'm the weird one... My ex-fiance didn't find me physically attractive and told me that he only started dating me at first simply because I was available. We were together for 5 years before he broke up after he was diagnosed with Huntington's disease. I know he loved me...but the lady reason was because he thought I was attractive. Post Reply

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