Author	Thread: Transparancy in marriage
rainbowian View Profile History	Transparancy in marriage Posted : 18 Oct, 2010 02:27 PM What are your thoughts on both spouses having access to each others e-mail, cell phone, etc.? Would it benefit the marriage? Post Reply
riveroflife1 View Profile History	Transparancy in marriage Posted : 18 Oct, 2010 02:53 PM i think they should have access, or at least know the passwords. but if he's gonna look at my emails or check my msgs I would want to know why. Not like I would have anything to hide but he shouldnt do it sneakily. (is that a word?) if someone cheated on him on the past, I dont wanna pay for her mistakes and him always trying to catch me doing something. That's a drag. I wouldnt go into his email unless he asked me to or check his messages on his cell phone. I would respect his privacy. but yes i think we should have each others passwords. Post Reply
DEEDEE72 View Profile History	Transparancy in marriage Posted : 18 Oct, 2010 03:38 PM I agree with what River wrote:applause: Post Reply
rainbowian View Profile History	Transparancy in marriage Posted : 18 Oct, 2010 04:26 PM Why do you assume there's a nefarious reason for it? The goal of transparency is to protect each other from their sinful nature. (Romans 7:18) If one has nothing to hide, why not be open? I remember reading how Billy Graham would always leave his office door open when counseling women to avoid even the appearance of wrongdoing. Post Reply
riveroflife1 View Profile History	Transparancy in marriage Posted : 18 Oct, 2010 04:39 PM that's common that pastors/counselors do that. it's to be above reproach. Post Reply
View Profile History	Transparancy in marriage Posted : 18 Oct, 2010 05:36 PM I see nothing wrong with it. I see no point in spying if there is no trust to spy will not regain that trust. If we look for trouble we often find it.. But there is nothing wrong with knowing how to read the emails or what ever in case there is an emergancy or you are asked to do something.. I like the idea of only one email addy for the couple Post Reply
DontHitThatMark View Profile History	Transparancy in marriage Posted : 18 Oct, 2010 06:16 PM If someone really doesn't want you to read their email, they'll just open another account and just not tell you about it. Seems like a waste of time to me. :peace::peace: Post Reply
bcpianogal View Profile History	Transparancy in marriage Posted : 18 Oct, 2010 06:39 PM I agree with River. Post Reply
cowgirl1984 View Profile History	Transparancy in marriage Posted : 18 Oct, 2010 11:23 PM I honestly don't think it matters. I think that if you want to know all of your spouse's passwords and have access to everything because you don't trust them, that is a problem and is something that needs worked out through counseling and prayer. I think if you trust each other, then it doesn't matter either way to either one of you. My entire family has access to both my parents' email and I use both their phones occasionally and they use each others. My mom checks my dad's email daily. It's not a lack of trust. She checks his email to help him out because he is very busy. If we use each others phones, it's because it's convenient. It's not like anyone is spying on anyone. I generally try to maintain my privacy, but I am single. I still have given my family access to my email because I know they won't abuse it. My mom, sister, and I have all had access to each others facebook accounts. The issue here isn't having passwords or access to personal electronic devices. The issue is TRUST. #1 You do not need your spouse's information or access to any devices or accounts because you trust them implicitly. #2 You trust your spouse to not abuse or misuse the access they have to your devices or accounts. If you have nothing to hide, it shouldn't matter to you whether your spouse has access to your stuff. And if you trust your spouse, it shouldn't matter to you whether you have access to their stuff. I'm not saying that we shouldn't have our own anything anymore once we're married. I'm just saying, it should be a non-issue. By the way, EXCELLENT thread!!!! Post Reply
bcpianogal View Profile History	Transparancy in marriage Posted : 19 Oct, 2010 06:55 AM Well, I said that I agree with River, but I think I agree with Cowgirl more! She basically described the way my family handles things, and how I'd hope things would be when I have a husband and kids of my own. Post Reply
DontHitThatMark View Profile History	Transparancy in marriage Posted : 19 Oct, 2010 08:49 AM :laugh: Yes, I agree also, nice post. :peace::peace: Post Reply

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