How to love your Future Wife as Christ loved the church?
Posted : 6 Oct, 2025 04:55 AM
To "love your wife as Christ loved the church" means to love her with a sacrificial, selfless, and purifying love that leads to her holiness and spiritual growth. This involves husbands giving themselves up for their wives, cherishing them, serving them with kindness, nourishing them spiritually and emotionally, and ultimately presenting them to God in perfection.
Key Aspects of this Love
Sacrifice: Like Christ gave His life for the church, husbands are called to make sacrificial efforts for their wives, putting her needs and well-being before their own.
Purification and Nurturing: Christ loved the church by cleansing and sanctifying her, so husbands should help their wives grow in holiness, guiding her towards righteousness and spiritual perfection.
Selflessness and Devotion: This love is not about self-seeking pleasure but about a deep, unwavering devotion and commitment to the wife's total good.
Service and Care: Husbands should serve their wives by actively caring for their needs, attending to their emotional lives, and providing support.
Growth and Presentation to God: A purposeful husband will focus on the long-term goal of presenting his wife to God as a radiant, blameless individual, full of splendor.
Practical Application for Husbands
Know Her Deeply: Pay attention to her hopes, fears, and dreams to understand her emotional life and connect with her heart.
Be Present and Engaged: Make time for her, listen to her, and speak kindly about her so she feels safe and loved.
Offer Sacrifice: Be willing to give up things for her, whether it's personal comfort, pride, or ego.
Lead and Nurture Spiritual Growth: Provide a godly example and guide her in her walk with God, much like Christ does for the church.
Cherish Her as You Cherish Yourself: Love your wife as your own body, feeding and caring for her as you would your own flesh.
Are Modern Godly Men nowadays still willing to do all these? Or just the Traditional Men?
How to love your Future Wife as Christ loved the church?
Posted : 7 Oct, 2025 07:30 AM
Divorce happens whether there is infidelity or not.
Pick your reasons for divorce.
But no where in the New Testament does it authorize marriage after divorce.
“Anyone who divorces his wife and marries another woman commits adultery, and the man who marries a divorced woman commits adultery." (Luke 16:18)
A man causes his wife to commit adultery by divorcing her when she had not committed adultery. Then she goes to someone else and therein commits adultery because her husband divorced her then she went to another. That is how Matthew is explained.
Mark 10:12
If a woman divorces her husband and marries another man, she commits adultery. (Mark 10:12)
People always twist the scriptures to justify divorce when Jesus spoke against divorce and spoke against marriage after divorce. Divorce is unfaithfulness. Adultery results from divorce. Adultery is what comes after divorce. In the Bible, people were stoned to death for committing adultery. A man was not to have another man's wife. And a woman was only to have her husband. In the Bible, a man could have multiple wives and multiple concubines. But he was not to have another man's wife. So, you twist scripture to justify divorce. The New Testament teaching is against divorce. And the Old Testament teaching only allows for the man to divorce his wife. Not government nor wife. It is for the man to write his wife a certificate of divorce. It is not the place of a wife to write her husband a certificate of divorce nor is it a place for the government to write a man a certificate of divorce. Under the Law through Moses, it is only for the man (a husband) to write a certificate of divorce. And Jesus spoke against it. But divorce for whatever reason you like. The Bible speaks against divorce, and the Bible speaks against marriage after divorce, and the church has a BIG problem following the Bible, meaning it will never follow the Bible.
Very well said, it is better not to marry. (Matthew 19:10 and 1 Corinthians 7:1)
How to love your Future Wife as Christ loved the church?
Posted : 7 Oct, 2025 08:46 AM
"Find a fully transformed traditional Godly woman" on the surface that sounds great. But I'm afraid you're forgetting how easy it is for women to fall for the sweet nothings Satan whispers into their ears. Eve lived in close proximity to God in the Garden of Eden and still fell for Satan's lies.
Many places in the modern world have given women freedoms that God didn't intend for them to have and the result has been women putting themselves above men. Most Churches are siding more and more with feminism and are no longer teaching women what their place is in the marriage. On top of that women are given the freedom to divorce for any reason and are more than willing to destroy the family when Satan tells them to.
Listening to the Scriptures when it comes to marriage and divorce is not a consideration anymore. Using Eve as an example: When you give women the power to make their own decisions then they will more than likely make bad decisions. There's plenty of evidence of that happening now.
In short no matter how Godly a women is. If she's married and living outside the constraints of the marriage hierarchy then sooner or later she's going to listen to Satan and wreck the marriage.
How to love your Future Wife as Christ loved the church?
Posted : 7 Oct, 2025 08:52 AM
The wise woman builds her house, but with her own hands the foolish one tears hers down. (Proverbs 14:1)
Divorce and abortion are women tearing down their houses.
I think women lead the direction of the family.
She can choose to be a Proverbs 31:12 woman or she can choose to be a Proverbs 31:3 woman. The choice is hers.
She brings her husband good, not harm all the days of her life, she is a Proverbs 31:12 woman.
She ruins kings. Then she is a Proverbs 31:3 woman.
Which you are, I do not know.
More women ruin their husbands.
There are not many good Christian women.
1 Peter 3:1-2 says, "Wives, in the same way submit yourselves to your own husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives, when they see the purity and reverence of your lives. "
Some say "Behind every great man is a great woman." I believe that can be true. If a woman does not cause her husband trouble, she is a blessing to her husband. Proverbs 31:10=31 describes a hardworking generous woman that is good to her husband and good to her kids and good to others and a great investor. It does not describe most women.
Most women are described by Bible verses like "corner roof".
Proverbs 21:9 and Proverbs 25:24
Better to live on a corner of the roof than share a house with a quarrelsome wife. (Proverbs 21:9)
Better to live on a corner of the roof than share a house with a quarrelsome wife. (Proverbs 25:24)
Better to live in a desert than with a quarrelsome and nagging wife. (Proverbs 21:19)
A quarrelsome wife is like the dripping of a leaky roof in a rainstorm; restraining her is like restraining the wind. (Proverbs 27:15)
No marriages are ideal. It is all life outside the Garden of Eden. Nothing perfect here.
But women definitely lead the way that marriages go. They choose to be Proverbs 31:12 or they choose to be Proverbs 31:3. They choose to build their house (Ruth 4:11 KJV) or they choose to TEAR IT DOWN. (Proverbs 14:1) Better to build than it is to demolish, but the times are that no one follows the Bible.
