Well yesterday from another christian site a paid one a fellow told me he's God. I told him no you are you but are not God. He said he had many powers. I promptly blocked him. Wow and another paid site I got the most abusive smutt letters I refused to pay anymore so came here. God bless you all.
The bible says, 'Do not be afraid of any trouble from the wecked when it comes, for the Lord is your confidence". The devil came on this earch to steal to destroy and to kill. Greater is He who is in us than that who is in the world. Welcome to this forum sister.
This site can be discouraging also as I have got tons of scammers in my inbox so be careful. I have had some creepy people also who were tag-teaming up to be smutty but other than that , it has been good.
I met my husband online, and he was a church leader, well dressed, even better spoken, mentoring other men and leading people to Christ, leading Bible studies, Alpha and Freedom programs, etc. We dated for a year and a half before we got married. Within a week of returning from our honeymoon and him moving in, I discovered that he had a porn addiction, was messaging other women, and had been arrested for pedophilia. It was five years of counseling and church interventions intertwined with mistresses, prostitutes, and porn. Needless to say we are now divorced and he is in an open relationship with a married couple.
More recently, I met a man online and we began a relationship. He treated me like gold, and was attentive, considerate, and seemed to be deeply rooted in Christ. Then he disappeared, and I learned that he had been arrested for sexual assault.
I started chatting with another man. We were getting along great, and I was enjoying getting to know him. He was outgoing, warm, and funny, and seemed to be sensitive to the Holy Spirit's leading. Then one night he yelled at me over the phone for ten minutes straight because I had set a dish on the kitchen floor for the dogs to eat while we were talking on the phone, and he could hear it on his end, and was angry that I was doing something besides just giving him my complete attention. I was in tears. I'm not a rude person at all, and to be accused of being rude and inconsiderate for doing something so insignificant was a massive deal breaker. So much for him.
Then there was a string of men who just wanted to talk about my looks and ask for pictures of me wearing stockings and high heels, or a bikini, or nothing at all. So the pictures came off my profile and I blocked them all one by one. If someone cares to get to know me, I'll share pictures then.
I'm at the point now where if I never meet a man who can treat me with the respect and consideration I deserve, then I'm fine with being alone. And all those experiences have just made me more aware of what to look for, so I'm grateful for the education. But yes, it certainly is a jungle out there!
Iam very sorry you have these bad experiences in life. Yes, j aggree we must becareful specially meeting with people in dating site. May Lord bless and protect you amen.
There really are many predators on-line, just like 'in real life'.
I had thought myself a good judge of character, but a recent encounter reminded me again of the importance of discernment.
Not a dating story at all.. just an example of a very disturbing kind.
That someone (on another online site) seemed like a gentleman, an intelligent and well-spoken person, highly educated and a great career.. involved in many noble Christian causes and social issues.
We were just talking as friends, and after a while some things just-- seemed to be off. I know my radar is sensitive, so I tried to be fair, not judgmental..
It begun to feel like he was just lapping up adoration from the women, knowing which buttons to push to get attention, while mocking those who were sincerely talking with him..
There was some underlying sense of condescension in his manner, and then the sudden jabs and dibs, belittling comments, backhanded compliments... to show off his superiority.
Also some very aggressive messages.
Then, victim mode, when I called out his manner.
What helped me a lot was to watch several educational videos about covert abuse and how insidious it is. The target begins to wonder if what is happening is real or imagined..
but that was an excellent lesson again, to remember what many men really are.
The video by Dr. Les Carter about the Rabbit and the Alligator was just spot on about seductive abusers and their predatory tendencies...They try to create those trauma bonds so the victim stays hooked, this is how they thrive.
