There's nothing wrong with "feeling like you're 30" but to lie and missrepresent yourself as being something you're not is a different kettle of fish...:-)
Itâs possible the person lied about his age but then again how do we know for sure.
How might we arrive at a plausible conclusion one way or the other? Certainly not without inquiry. Did anyone ask? Perhaps it was a error. Maybe the person simply posted his profile and never looked again for several months.
I agree with you entirely that all Christians must have integrity, thatâs pretty much a given and youâre right.
Iâm not suggesting you look the guy up and ask. You know the situation and itâs none of my business. Iâm only addressing your rush to judgment when you assume, without proof, he lied about his age. (Not to worry, Iâm not judging you, Iâve also rushed into judgment myselfâtoo many times. Iâm no angel as many could testify, so Iâm not about to condemn you or anyone else for doing what I have done). Iâm only hoping to point out something Iâve learned over the years from my own rushes in to judgement. Like they say, âexperience is for fools who wonât learn another wayââyes, that applies directly to me.
Ok, speaking of integrity, I think youâre failing to see how integrity also extends to personal charity, in this case, when you arbitrarily refuse the biblical responsibility of lovingly extending the benefit of doubt. 1 Corinthians 13:7 English Standard Version, 7 Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. (better to review the whole chapter)
Paulâs is not saying love is gullible. But by way of relational application, heâs saying love believes in the best about someone until proven otherwise.
In other words, whenever we hear or read something suspicious we always give the person suspiciously involved the benefit of the doubt by withholding judgement.
In the case of your friend (former friend), you might have started out simply by politely pointing out his âerrorâ. In response, he may have apologized and explained the discrepancy. Or he may have revealed his true character by blowing his cork.
You didnât mention any other serious red flag issues with him so l assume there wasnât any ?
In conclusion, all Iâm saying is this: a single discrepancy on a form doesnât accrue sufficient evidence to categorize someone.
On profiles, men are more likely to lie about their age or height. Meanwhile, women are most likely to lie about weight. We can often do it out of shame or fear of rejection.
As Christians, just indicate your real traits. Building any form of relationship requires trust. The online dynamic complicates things enough.
For the change in age, it may indicate that he/she really wanted to contact someone who had the age restriction settings on.
