question for men 50 and older---though anyone can answer
Posted : 12 Oct, 2010 12:37 AM
Rabbit - I find your concept quite interesting. It is some what compatible with my preferences. After being widowed, I didn't think that I was interested in a never married man because of his lack of knowledge regarding women and relationships. Formerly married men may have baggage, but hopefully, a godly man will be working through that baggage with God's help and has a lot of life experience to bring to the relationship, even if it is learning from his mistakes. At my age, I'm not interested in breaking one in from scratch.
Marie - Pass those guys seeking young fillies over. I don't care to take on the stress of forever being 20 something. I'm not interested in the plastic surgery that is required to maintain a false youth - just not worth my time and trouble when there are souls to be saved. I'm not interested in having more children and I think I've earned the status of grandma and relish in it. Just move on as if they said they're looking for a mermaid that plays the ukelele. They're just not what you're looking for!
As for your question, yes there are godly men looking for godly women over the age of 50. They are rare, but you only need 1. Focus on who God wants you to be right now where you are and God will bring it about according to His plan.
I'm taking my parent's to Omaha, Wed. morning for an appointment with the surgeon and surgery is scheduled for Thurs. morning. Please be in prayer for everyone involved.
He will stay in the hospital 3-4 days, so it will be a while before I can update you.
ARE WE STANDING IN THE WAY OF GOD BLESSING US WITH A SPOUSE?
Posted : 11 Oct, 2010 10:39 PM
@ Tulip : "Am I the kind of person that the kind of person I would want to marry would want to marry?" We can build our relationship with Christ, grow in our faith, and grow personally, but we can't hurry up God's timing.
ARE WE STANDING IN THE WAY OF GOD BLESSING US WITH A SPOUSE?
Posted : 11 Oct, 2010 10:32 PM
DeeDee,
This question I agree with: If God felt we were ready we would be married right?
If you just wanted to be married to be married, you could go to Vegas and pick somebody up in a casino bar who would be a willing participant, but most of us here are wanting more.
Maybe, "Do we want God to prepare us for a godly marriage or do we just want Him to hand us a spouse? is a question we should consider. I didn't marry until I was 29. I had a career and my own home. I thought I was ready. Evidentally, God didn't. During that time, I took as many opportunities as possible to study the Bible; attend seminars, conferences, workshops, etc.; and read any (Christian) book I could get my hands on that would help me be a godly woman and wife. I did not "waste my years" as (I think) Cobbler is trying to say. I wanted to be the best single or married woman I could be for God's glory. I still do.
However, whether we are wasting time on our laurels or being prepared is only something we can decide about ourselves with God's discernment. When Joseph was in prison because of Potipher's wife, he did not know that he was being prepared to be second in command of Eygpt. Yet, the Bible tells us that God was with Joseph and He prospered Joseph. While Paul sat in prison wanting to be in Rome witnessing to Caesar, he did not know that God was going to fill that desire of his heart, but he still took every opportunity to tell everyone he met about Jesus.
If I understand Cobbler correctly, we need to be about our Father's business while He is preparing us for our hearts desire. Being a hermit couch potato doesn't fall under the category of doing our Father's work or preparing for our heart's desire - unless your heart's desire is total apathy.
I was lonely a lot over those early years, but my heart's desire was worth the wait.
One out of 4 females will be sexually assaulted in their lifetime. Some documentation says 1 in 3. In my personal life, 1 in 4 holds true. With that kind of ratio, it's pretty hard not to know women who have been abused.
If you are a kind and "safe" person, you are indeed going to attract wounded, needy women. That doesn't mean that you are doing anything wrong, it just means that your personality and behavior meets a need in these ladies lives.
How ever, you can not "save" anyone. Only God can deliver these women from their pain. Be firm about insisting that your lady friends work on their issues and don't become an enabler. Until a woman has a handle on her problems, you cannot have a healthy relationship.
I didn't make an assessment. I asked a question. I didn't say that you were wrong about your "list."
I was asking where the anxiety is coming from if you have truly gotten over your abuse and repulsions due to that abuse. Sometimes I get lost in all of the corners you turn during a dialogue.
Excellent answers, but he's not that alert. There's nothing he wants to watch on T.V. Crosswords take more concentration than he has right now. Don't know if that's the morphine or just basic body invasion. He has to be careful about outside contact because of risk of infection.
Thanks for caring. If you think of anymore ideas, please post.
