Author	Thread: Looking For The One?
1jon310 View Profile History	Looking For The One? Posted : 10 Dec, 2013 08:33 PM When did we get the idea that we need to look for the "one"? We seem to have developed the notion that God has created "one" perfect person for us and this person will complete us and our lives will be this amazing picture of happiness. The Bible contains these specific couples that were clearly put together by God: Adam and Eve: brought sin into the world. Isaac and Rebekah: she helped deceive Isaac into giving Jacob, Esau's blessing. God chose Israel for His bride and divorced her because of her continued adultery by chasing after other gods. Hosea and Gomer: a prostitute who kept leaving. God the Father has chosen the church to be the bride of His Son Jesus and lets face it, this bride has given the groom many reasons to weep. So if these marriages ordained by God had sin, deception, adultery, prostitution, and many other problems; then why do we think that we will do better? For those of us who were previously married, looking at the Biblical examples, why do we think that the marriage that we already had was not the "one"? r Post Reply
Hisjoymypeace View Profile History	Looking For The One? Posted : 10 Dec, 2013 10:48 PM Well 1jon310......I've personally aspired to the notion that I would not actively "look for the one", but I'd place myself in a proactive stance, eg. fellowshipping, making new friends......prayerful and hopeful that we'd find each other(smile)! The examples you mentioned of Biblical couples having such traumatic marriages, yet bought together by The Lord, all but makes my personal situation clearer. When being married and divorced, with neither of us being Christ followers.....I'm of the impression that I should and could now be with the "only one" at this point in my life....the one God had chosen for me all along! Expecting that if I'm blessed to be newly united, no matter how things may turn out, it will still be for and to the honor of The Lord! Don't get me wrong, I very much understand your logic and Biblical reasoning, yet I believe many who are here that have high expectations of now being with the "one", will want to believe that they've been given another opportunity, another chance........just my hopeless, human passionate/romantic side speaking I guess(smile)! Post Reply
View Profile History	Looking For The One? Posted : 11 Dec, 2013 03:52 PM Christ was greater than Abraham, Hosea, Isaac and every other old testament folks. He is the Author and Finisher of our faith, hence His model of marriage to the church (Eph. 4:20-33) should be the model constitution for building a Christian courtship/relationship/marriage. Post Reply
View Profile History	Looking For The One? Posted : 11 Dec, 2013 11:02 PM There is no "one" that is perfect in every sense for anyone. I doubt God would be as cruel as to put that much pressure on us. Post Reply
View Profile History	Looking For The One? Posted : 12 Dec, 2013 07:48 AM Cant help but notice... when one says "looking for THE one", it reminds me of the Highlander... And if you've let "the one" go... then there is none. :dunce: Post Reply
beulah707 View Profile History	Looking For The One? Posted : 13 Dec, 2013 06:26 AM Hmmm, my 2 cents -- Hollywood. Back in the days, i.e. biblical times, there was hardly any romance. Marriage just seemed... strategic? They don't exactly fall in love and get married. They were betrothed. Romance was I guess something invented by the Renaissance era, the romanticism of everything. An era when feelings and emotions were given a greater value over logic, proof and faith. But as the Bible says, the heart is deceitful about all things. So, it's actually dangerous to gravitate on the concept of "the one." I had a relationship in the past, it was probably the most romantic one ever. It had all the God factor in it. But it still didn't work out. because my expectations were way over the top. Key learning? Relationship is more defined as teamwork rather than romance. romance is the icing on the cake, with cherry on top. but the cake, is teamwork. There's a Leader, God, who has a manager, the husband, who has a servant, the wife, who also becomes a leader when the children come. One person leads because he/she is led. But what drives the relationship is love. There is submission to God, and submission to husband because there is love for God. And it's not just the warm and fuzzy feelings. It's the sacrifice -- not just on the level of giving, but on the level of being. All in, 100%, no taking back. The warm and fuzzy feelings, nice to have. But if the foundation is solid, there is no reason for romance to disappear. As my married friends would say it, it even gets better as the days go by. if there is such a person as "the one", i would say, He can only be Jesus. who else is capable of making us love the way He does? When Jesus is God of our lives, everything else fades in the background. He's the only one capable to keeping His promises of "the stars, the moon" as how our high school sweethearts would promise. men will fall out of integrity once in a while, but Jesus... NEVER! =) Post Reply
teach_ib View Profile History	Looking For The One? Posted : 13 Dec, 2013 06:35 PM Because God said it is not good for man to be alone and He created woman to be man's helpmeet. Two are better than one for many things. To go forth and multiply in God's way is through marriage. Post Reply
mcubed View Profile History	Looking For The One? Posted : 13 Dec, 2013 09:20 PM Lol� this is funny� I never thought of my ex-husband before as the one but maybe he was� he had sex with everything for heroin� the left for someone else that was willing to support him because I was done�. If you marry a woman that deceives you for the 13th tribe of Israel let me know, or if you marry a prostitute so you can show G-d�s love to Israel let me know. YES!!!! These things describe G-d�s relationship with His bride but not man to woman!!!! THANK G-D!!!!!! Post Reply
Lukia^ View Profile History	Looking For The One? Posted : 17 Dec, 2013 11:09 PM Yes God created man.He saw that it wasn't right for man to live alone so He created woman for him. God told Adam and Eve to go forth and multiply.This can only happen through marriage according to God's plan. Jesus also spoke about this..read Mark10:1.... God's design from the beginning was for man and woman to live together hence fill the earth. But because of the hardness of the hearts of human beings this have changed.Thats why marriages break(that wasn't God's design),we have children out of wedlock and so forth... We should thank God coz He is a loving God.He knew the perverse ways of His creation so He gave His only son to die for our sins.And therefore where we have erred God through His son Jesus Christ forgives us and brings us back to His ways. God gives us another chance in life. Post Reply