Author	Thread: A Little Help, Please?
Cat4Christ777 View Profile History	A Little Help, Please? Posted : 27 Oct, 2013 10:46 PM Hi, guys! I have a bit of a dilemna. I keep getting messages or winks from men who have obviously not read my profile. I've changed my profile intro several times, yet this problem persists. I am constantly having to tell these guys to go back and read my profile. Could some of you please read the first few paragraphs of my profile and then come back here and tell me what you think? Will my newest edit work to get guys to read at least a few paragraphs? I'm thinking the length of my profile might be a daunting prospect for most guys to commit to reading the whole thing, so I thought maybe, if they only had to read the first few paragraphs, they would make the effort. What do you guys think? I need input! :winksmile: Thank you all, in advance. --Cat Post Reply
dunravin View Profile History	A Little Help, Please? Posted : 28 Oct, 2013 02:04 AM Sorry CAt but in my experience most guys walk around half the time with their eyes closed...the other half of the time their mouths are so busy working overtime that they cannot hear anything that anyone else says. Add to this that so many guys cannot read simple directions and you want guys to actually read...no...they generally just look at the comic sections...or the photographs. I get the same thing...winks from ladies way outside of the parameters of my profile request...and my lifestyle choices...It may well be an issue of hardwiring but it generally comes down to not seeing the person in the profile...only what they want to see...a photograph may well not tell the truth. Anyway a fair question ...just unanswerable. Post Reply
dunravin View Profile History	A Little Help, Please? Posted : 28 Oct, 2013 02:04 AM Sorry CAt but in my experience most guys walk around half the time with their eyes closed...the other half of the time their mouths are so busy working overtime that they cannot hear anything that anyone else says. Add to this that so many guys cannot read simple directions and you want guys to actually read...no...they generally just look at the comic sections...or the photographs. I get the same thing...winks from ladies way outside of the parameters of my profile request...and my lifestyle choices...It may well be an issue of hardwiring but it generally comes down to not seeing the person in the profile...only what they want to see...a photograph may well not tell the truth. Anyway a fair question ...just unanswerable. Post Reply
sisygirl View Profile History	A Little Help, Please? Posted : 28 Oct, 2013 02:47 AM I'm sorry Cat for interfering with a 'mans' topic, only wanna say few things: You're soooooooooo beautiful dear sis, both on your most recent and on the older pic. "You have no intentions of being a widow anytime soon, so the brother must be in good health." That line made me laugh big time :ROFL: All in all dear if I should give you a feedback, I wish you didn't compromise or dilute the first original profile story of who you are. Reading the current one made me wonder how was the first original one. What I liked though on the current one is your boundaries written in black and white, and therefore giving us an idea of the kind that you are while drawing a thin line on fellows who may not be your ideal match. I always say that, a leader with no boundaries is dangerous to him/her self. With that said..... your profile clarifies the kind you'd rather be reached by, if only they were reading the whole story. Post Reply
Cat4Christ777 View Profile History	A Little Help, Please? Posted : 28 Oct, 2013 11:02 AM Thanks for your input, Dunravin! I think it was also clear that 32 folks viewed this thread, yet I only received 2 responses, and one was from a female friend. LOL! Wow. Doesn't give me much hope of ever hearing from the 'right' man, since guys don't read profiles. Maybe I should take my pics down, to force them to read. LOL! Then again, I probably won't get any views at all! Thanks again, Dun! Blessings! --Cat Post Reply
Cat4Christ777 View Profile History	A Little Help, Please? Posted : 28 Oct, 2013 11:36 AM Hiya, Sisygirl! Hugs! Thank you for your wonderful compliments, sis! I'm only changing my profile so often because men apparently aren't reading it, so I've been trying different things to motivate them to read it. Apparently, Dunravin says guys don't care to read. Oh well. Yeah, a lot of the guys in my age range have 'let themselves go' and don't seem interested in attracting an available female. They don't appear healthy enough to survive beyond maybe 5 or 10 more years. This concerns me because my first marriage only lasted 2.5 years, and I'd like a chance at a life-long marriage, not the guy dying on me after only a few years. I've already been alone for a very long time (my heart takes a long time to heal after being crushed). I am just so fed up with receiving messages from guys claiming they want to 'get to know me,' when they haven't taken even the FIRST step in that direction by reading my profile. I find their messages, and their lack of interest in who I am, hurtful and insulting. Makes me feel like this entire endeavor is pointless because no man cares about who I am; they only care about my appearance. This is so disheartening, it makes me want to give up and leave the site because it's not producing any desired result. That's why I started this thread, to get input on what I have to do to get someone to read my profile. Thank you for your lovely input, sis! Hugs and Godly blessings to you, Sisygirl! :angel: --Cat Post Reply
sisygirl View Profile History	A Little Help, Please? Posted : 28 Oct, 2013 11:58 AM "Doesn't give me much hope of hearing from a 'right man'' A secure man will come along, He won't be intimidated by the challenge, or threatened in any way by your restrictions. I'd say leave those pics and that profile story as it is please dear sis. When you least expect someone will reach out to you, someone drawn by your strong character (taking from what i've observed from your profile story) Weman of strong charector are a threat. Takes a man of your kind to 'disarm' you and bring out the softness hidden far deep within this strong woman. Most guys may not have time for that knowing there's an easy target they may easly have just around the corner instead of pursuing you. I personally would appreciate a man who'd pursue me in that level, cause most guys didn't even wanna dere to take a chance, guys I assumed stand a chance if only played he's card right. Can't help thinking of the soft woman hidden inside me, who can only be discovered through a gentle of strength (yet tender hearted) whose up for the challenge and the test of time. Wish you all the best on your search darling sis!! Post Reply
1jon310 View Profile History	A Little Help, Please? Posted : 28 Oct, 2013 05:21 PM Hi Cat I have read your profile before and after your changes. You are clear to me what you are looking for. In my profile I ask that no winks be sent to me. Guess what? Still receive them. My take on your dilemma... Some do not read, some do not comprehend what they read, some think they are "so all that" that they can change your mind, and then here are the people who are so used to lying and being lied to in the dating world that they do not believe you. It has been my experience even in face to face meetings that all of those answers still apply. I would like to give you a simple solution but other then being a celibate hermit there is no simple solution that I know of. Sorry. God's will be manifest for you. r Post Reply
View Profile History	A Little Help, Please? Posted : 28 Oct, 2013 06:29 PM Well, it got me to keep reading, for what it's worth. Personally I think you should focus on getting a broader talent pool to recruit from. Don't make parameters if you can't really enforce them. The only thing saying things like "Don't email me if..." accomplishes is detracting the good guys because it makes you seem too negative or serious, and the bad or otherwise unqualified ones will just keep doing it anyway because they don't care and there's no consequences or anything to lose if they don't listen. So for those reasons, I say just don't even try to stop them, but rather focus on broadening the talent pool you have to recruit from. The bigger the pool, the more eligible recruits you'll have. That's what I would do anyway. It's not a bad profile. A bit longer than usual, but it's not like it's a pain to read. Post Reply
Cat4Christ777 View Profile History	A Little Help, Please? Posted : 28 Oct, 2013 09:41 PM 1John310, No worries. I'm already celibate, staying pure for God's sake. Have been since I left my husband back in July, 1994. If my profile wasn't clear, I am looking for a man who is willing to wait until the wedding night. I'm weeding out the secular types who don't believe, nor follow the Bible. The only guys who message me are the scammers or those who haven't read my profile. That pretty much covers the single males on this site. Thanks for your input, though, R! God bless! --Cat Post Reply
Cat4Christ777 View Profile History	A Little Help, Please? Posted : 28 Oct, 2013 09:53 PM Renov8Elev8, I am not looking for a gigolo. It's not talent that I want. It's a True Christian male--the rarest sort, the one who believes and follows the guidance in the Bible (aka, will wait until our wedding night to make love). I am not interested in just ANYone. I think you misunderstood what I was asking for in my thread. I don't want MORE men reading my profile, I want the RIGHT guy to read my profile. I'm weeding OUT the secular types who are not living out their faith. And, yes, I am SERIOUS about what I am looking for, not trying to add to the pool of guys messaging me unnecessarily. I was only asking for tips from guys on how to get guys to actually read my profile. Thank you for your input, though. God bless! --Cat Post Reply

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