I recommend reading Genesis 24, the story of Isaac and Rebekkah. This sets a precedent for asking God to choose your mate for you, and give you a clue as to which person He has chosen.
Have you ever seen the movie, "Some Like It Hot" with Marylin Monroe?
There is a scene in that move where she is wearing a dress, and walks across a subway grate that pushes air up, causing her skirt to raise up and expose her underwear.
So, wearing a skirt or dress can still be quite revealilng, regardless of whether the woman is trying to be modest or not.
No matter what women wear, men will always lust for us simply because we are female. It's the porn industry that has taken away the mystery of a woman's body in a man's mind. He knows what she looks like under her clothing already. Don't blame women for the sin in men's hearts and minds.
Arminianism sounds like just another man-made religion, and not of God.
The devil has a hand in the creation of religions, because religions deny the Truth of the Bible, and do not lead followers to initiating a relationship with God through Christ.
Instead, they tell followers they must DO things (works) to get to Heaven, instead of believing in and having a relationship with Christ.
In reality, according to the Bible, Jesus already DID everything necessary to save us all. He paid for all our sins by his suffering and death on the cross. All we have to do is believe this, and be appreciative.
So, forget all satan's attempts to confuse you with 'alternative gospels' and man-made religions that only lead you astray. Just read God's Written Word and pray/communicate with God's Living Word (Jesus).
Gain understanding and wisdom by reading the Written Word and pour out your heart to the Living Word!
But you're not that old; you can get a guy in your own age range, and have a good chance of having a long marriage or relationship.
I'm 50, and a lot of men my own age--or even a little younger--have let themselves go. It's not so much what they look like, but just the health issues associated with being overweight, really.
I want someone who is just as healthy and active as I am, because that means he may live as long as I will--giving us a chance at a long healthy life together.
So, of course, I am looking for someone who indicates on his profile that he is not only a real Christian, but also living an active and healthy lifestyle.
I've put up a limited age range of men I'll allow to message me, in my Account Settings: 46-56. I want someone from my own generation.
Yes, I do have standards, but I've paid a dear price in the past when I did NOT have standards. So, I'm keeping my high standards, and know that there is someone out there who meets them. It just takes time.
We should not sacrifice our standards out of a lack of patience.
How important is attraction in pursuing a christian relationship?
Posted : 6 Aug, 2013 09:33 PM
I can only speak for myself.
But, I will say I was not attracted to the man I ended up marrying--at least not at first. Back then, we were just friends, so it did not matter what he looked like.
The more time I spent with him, the more feelings I had for him; fond feelings.
After about a year, he kissed me, and that changed the relationship from friends to something else.
We got married shortly after. But even that did not last. After only 2.5 years, I walked in on him with another woman. That ended any trust I had in his ability to be faithful.
So, I don't think it matters, either way; but if you are attracted to a man, I think it might be harder to resist the temptation to get physical before marriage.
I applaud your wanting to remain pure for your husband! You are truly honoring God with your body when you do this! Keep the faith, sister!
I can agree with both of those lists, for after marriage.
Regular sex is necessary to maintain the emotional bond in marriage, but it is not good to be had before marriage. Tends to destroy the motive for marriage, for what motive would a man have to marry if he's already getting what he wants?
I think a lot of trouble starts when men claim they need sex before marriage, but women need to feel loved first. Well, I do, anyway. And I would not marry a man without ensuring there is love on both sides.
I've been surprised a couple of times, once by a fiance and once by a husband, to discover he did not love me--after the fact. I found out because both cheated.
Have you read ChristianDating's terms and conditions?
They say they do their best to keep their members safe, but cannot be responsible for what members say on their profiles and in messages to others.
There is something you can do, though. You can block him from contacting you, by copying his nickname and adding it to a block list via your Account Settings page.
Or, when you're viewing his profile, look at the bottom of his page; there's a link down there where you can send an 'abuse report' about him.
If he's being as abusive as you say, then the Admin might delete his profile.
Do you believe that God can send you someone but you don't recognise and it's too late
Posted : 6 Aug, 2013 07:44 PM
Yes, I do believe God can send us someone. There is Biblical precedence for this, in Genesis 24, the story of Isaac and Rebekkah.
Abraham send his servent to his homeland to find a wife for his son Isaac, and the servent prayed for God to choose the appropriate woman. The servent gave specific conditions that would clue him to which woman God had chosen, and those conditions came true.
Read Genesis 24, and see how a good woman was chosen for Isaac.
That should give you an idea of how to pray for God's choosing a mate for you. Remember to always test every man's character against Biblical definitions of a good husband, so you will know he's the right one.
And, see that you do your best to emulate the 'Noble Wife' described in Proverbs 31.
Just remember that God knew every day of our lives even before we were born, so He is the best one to choose a mate for us.
I've noticed that very few folks who call themselves "Christian" are living out their faith, so maybe they don't have faith?
I know that I need Jesus in my life, for everything. Love knowing He's always beside me and I can talk with Him anytime--ask Him questions, give him my worries and burdens, or even just say, "Thank You, Lord" for everything.
As it says in 2 Corinthians 6:14, "Do not be yoked with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?"
I have discovered, on many occasions, that clear communication is difficult with those who do not believe as we do. So, it just makes sense to associate with people of the same faith.
And, Thank Jesus there are Christian dating sites! :winksmile:
Name's Cat. Been here since Sunday (8-04), and already enjoying meeting the nice folks in your chat rooms.
I'm one of the older gals (50), and not a 'cougar.' (Sorry, boys!)
American and originally from California; moved to Colorado in 2006--just in time for their worst Fall/Winter season in over 10 years. Then again, I think it was my fault; I prayed for snow! :laugh: I'm over the novelty now.
Anyway, check out my profile, and come chat w/me in the '40s Chat' room. I try to spend time there every evening. Love chatting with fellow Christians!
