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dunravin View Profile	dating divorced woman Posted : 18 Aug, 2014 12:46 AM This is a confusing subject but reality sometimes needs to be clarified to my silly way of looking at things. Here is how I see it. Stealing is a sin...and a crime punishable by going to jail. Do your time and get free...repent and be forgiven. The same goes for murder...sin and crime. Do your time in jail and get free. ..repent and be forgiven...The list just goes on and on....Now for the sin of murder then the Biblical punishment is stoning...and the punishments for other sin are equally as drastic....But forgiveness is forgiveness is forgiveness...there is forgiveness for all sins and crimes but not for divorce... If you cheat on your taxes (stealing...not rendering unto Caesar) and then repent you are forgiven...and if you fall again you are forgiven again ...seventy times seven...it says that somewhere. However if you get divorced there is only punishment and more particularly amongst the brethren of the faith; there is a rush into righteous indignation, after all they do carry the big sticks of knowing God better than a mere sinner who either sinned or was sinned against. I just cannot quite fit God into such a little box, He doesn't want to be there. So to all divorced peoples I say jump up and down and wave your knickers in the air...you are free of the condemnation and if your brother doesn't like your freedom, Bless him and walk on.
dunravin View Profile	dating divorced woman Posted : 13 Aug, 2014 02:44 AM I wonder if those strange critters called girl cooties are any different on divorced women than on undivorced women or predivorced women...just wondering and musing upon imponderables
dunravin View Profile	Talking to multiple women?? Posted : 8 Aug, 2014 11:01 PM Maybe. What an incredibly ugly word when used in the context of presupposing what some other persons' motives may or may not be. A little bit of mind reading seems to be going on so go back to basics. You have already gone to dinner with him a couple of times so ask him what his intentions are, and while you ask that question of him ask it also of yourself. The unadulterated reality is that you just don't know and here is an opportunity to grow emotionally. As for the 21st. Century construct of dating being extra Biblical as has been suggested, well perhaps it is, in a very narrow context. The context of cultural identity.
dunravin View Profile	Is this shady ? Posted : 26 Jul, 2014 10:02 PM You asked for opinions...opinion was given.You disagree with the opinion given, ok. Clearly you have a predisposition to believing this chap is "shady" so why bother to ask the question. One serious thing to examine in the diatribe you have blurted out is the question of immigration. Not everyone wants to live in the United States. Some people come and some people go. Some go to study and some go to find a new life for themselves; and the United States was founded on the words etched into the Statue of Liberty, a message to the masses....that is the reality of its founding...people wanting a new beginning...in a land stolen away from the native peoples. That however is another argument for another day. I said before to take your "fleece before the Lord". Let Him be the Lord of Grace...He will give an answer.
dunravin View Profile	Is this shady ? Posted : 24 Jul, 2014 11:21 PM The fact that he is from someplace other than where you are means very little. I lived in the USA for 15 years and I was always from "somewhere else" and that "somewhere else" always was the primary identifier. Always. Being from "somewhere else", a foreign land, does not make a scam artist, nor a criminal, nor a wife beater, nor anything else. It simply means that there is more to this planet than the myopia selectively practiced by people who have made a serious practice of xenophobia and intolerance. Perhaps the "shady" part may reflect that you appear to have invested in this currently non-existant relationship emotionally, just an observation; and if I am wrong ...well that is ok by me. ..being wrong means that I have the opportunity to grow (perhaps). Being on a student visa, may simply mean that he is a student. You state that you take this sort of stuff to the Lord...Well...lay out your fleece...bring the test to the Lord and hear His answer.

dunravin View Profile	Why???? Posted : 18 Jul, 2014 01:09 AM So...all that is demonstrated in the preceding two responses is a penchant for being prejudicial and bigoted. Quote ...They (Men) are not mature...men are childish..". This is really judgemental; and demonstrating a complete disregard for the realities that some men just happen to find some women obnoxious and some men find some men obnoxious and some women find some women obnoxious. Personally, I find your (plural) attitudes obnoxious. Consider that perhaps it is your very attitudes towards men in general that have affected your expectations and behaviour and not men's attitudes towards you personally. You are responsible for your own choices. Choose an attitude that demonstrates grace and not bigotry.
dunravin View Profile	Christian Guys Please Respond to My Inquiry on Pornography Posted : 8 Mar, 2014 06:02 PM Shepheardess ...There is no such thing as a mind reader...so you can have no accurate 'reading' of who is interested in pornography...there is no magical test...and just as many females are interested in the phenomenon of pornography as there are males...So, No you cannot "tell"...the only supposition that is in effect is your own and most people do not have evidence available to them to categorically determine whether another person has a penchant for watching pornography or not. This is simply assumptive behaviour...no facts ...no evidence...just an uncanny ability to "tell". To ask a potential mate if they are interested in pornography demands a relationship already with boundaries and prejudices set in place...a relationship with a firm foundation of trust already established...And humans being humans, some body is probably going to not tell the truth...
dunravin View Profile	Is Chivalry/Gentleman like behaviors dead? Posted : 24 Feb, 2014 10:20 PM It does not matter where you go ...the abstract will be just as evident as where you are...and you think men may be intimidated by where you live...a big wrong sorry...I read your posts and many men would be intimidated by your intellect and your ability to lay out a cogent response,perhaps not defined as intimidation but nonetheless that is what it amounts to...this reasoned thought of yours may well confuse many who just feel awed by you....anyway
dunravin View Profile	Christian Guys Please Respond to My Inquiry on Pornography Posted : 19 Feb, 2014 08:56 PM We live in an age and time of increasing stimulation of our senses a new hedonism almost that has become the social norm. Included in that social norm is the advancement of hormonal imbalances often effected by the misalignment of genetic modification in food and medicine. So We have hormonal imbalances coupled with increasing stimulii of the pleasure centers of the brain and such stimulation as pornography or gambling etc...is intensified and more acceptable within many social modalities. The mores evolve into a new social dynamic. That does in no manner include the resulting spiritual chaos of a hormonal/genetic psychophysical imbalance. We are tripartite beings and any imbalance within very minute tolerances will generally effect a more turbulent manifestation of spiritual chaos. One such manifestation is pornography and with consideration to the foregoing any action taken must be very radical. A guy or a woman indulging in pornography is in for a very difficult ride when trying to enter into a personal monogamous( loving) relationship as opposed to the imaginary plaything in their imagination relationship. So difficult does this process become that many people simply give up on the reality of a monogamous loving relationship and prefer instead to indulge in the fantasy relationship. If you suspect that this is the case in any personal relationship then surely you would ask the question, and if you believe that you can be with this person and help them to grow through their fanciful notions then be prepared to institute radical change to your joint relationship...Consider environment and Food and the imbalances that are extant within our lives..........Our bitterness also plays a part...and our arrogance...
dunravin View Profile	Is Chivalry/Gentleman like behaviors dead? Posted : 12 Feb, 2014 08:59 PM Derek Prince was a great teacher and a man amongst men. His teachings are widely respected. Another resource that may be worthwhile for you to pursue is the ministry of Noel and Phyll Gibson in Australia. Closer to you and your home a Spirit filled Pastor and intercessory team may be something you should consider as you use terminologies suggesting that you believe yourself to be "possessed". Interesting paradigm if one is a born again Christian and worth pursuing with more learned persons that I perhaps in one of the forum rooms. There is a further complication to the issue when a psychiatric consultation may be a considered option. Chromeplatedheart also suggested a consideration and that was simply fast and pray...perhaps the better option of all...seek guidance and do it with oversight. Still for the sake of yourself and others on this site it would be remiss of me to not submit that dating should not be a serious consideration in your life at this time.

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