I wonder if you'll agree with me on this one, if you don't dear sis its ok, though you still welcome to share your thought anyway if you have something to share.
Here we go then...
Most weman (I know that i'm in the top of the list) have something that they 'hate/dislike' about themselves, could be about anything in their body. Since a question has been asked about 'being attracted to physical structure' hence searching for our possible mates, how will it make you feel if your partner (really hope you'll fine one dear) is actually more attracted to that one particular thing/part that you 'hate/dislike' more about yourself?
Will that put you at ease with that specific part that you don't like and maybe wouldn't even show it off previously if he had not told you that your charm physically is more on what you dislike about yourself?
Will that lay a ground for you to work on building confident on what you considered 'least' part of your out look?
Will you still despise that anyway?
How will this inpect on you personally if/when your partner loves most what you dislike about yourself without you even saying that, this part of your body you don't like. Could be your toes, could be your legs that you maybe feel they too thin for your liking. Could be about any visible part of you, even your nose for that matter.
I tried to make this question as clear as I possible can right now. You welcome to ask if you don't get what I mean. This was inspired by the below post about 'physical attraction'
It has been my experience (as a guy) that if a woman dislikes/ hates a physical attribute about themselves that their mind cannot be changed by someone else. What men are attracted to (usually) has little in common with what a woman dislikes about herself. If a man should try to reinforce her body image in this area of her bias then she will argue the point to convince him that her hated image is correct and he is wrong. At this point in my life... if a woman wants to hate her feet, knees, crows feet, whatever, I will try to convey that I'm not concerned about it and let it go. There are better things to argue about; like what is the better Christmas cookie... shortbread, sugar or peanutbutter with a chocolate kiss in the center. If a person's self image does not come from how God sees them then it is pointless. Man or woman. My thoughts anyway. r
Seasons greeting my sister! I was away and just returned. And what an interesting question.......I have basically become "accepting" of my physical physique as I've become older! If a potential mate can see the beauty in my less "attractive qualities" whether physical or emotional, then he's shown himself, to me , to be a person of character and integrity! Qualities in a man I highly admire:rolleyes:!! I would welcome his help in showing me how to overcome "insecurities" I might have in these areas.
I would simply have to say that how this issue is approached, could make or break the end results(smile)! Hopefully the former would be the choice made! I hope this helped my friend! God bless.
That is interesting actually. First time seeing your reply I was reminded of when I was told by a male friend (colleague) that I have a wrinkle on my nose that shows up when i'm angry. I didn't wanna admit that I was angry while addressing what had to be addressed with him, I denied being angry until he said, "With that wrinkle on your nose friendship I know you angry at me" I didn't know about it. Latter in the day I wondered if it was something 'cute' to have, something my partner would be attracted to if he was to exist.
Thank you dear for sharing your thought on this!
John
Correct me if i'm wrong please, i'm picking up a 'relaxed/layed back energy' from your reply. :nahnah:
I can almost imagine the reflection on your face as you typed your reply. I laughed when reading your reply, its always great hearing from you.
Joy
A very happy season of a new year to you too! Something I figured about you sis,.... Is that I enjoy your company more than I realized. Whenever I desire a relaxing sisterly conversation I think of you and wonder what to ask you. And yes dear you've been very pleasant to interact with up to this far. Its almost like you're here just next to me. Your warmth and smile is felt inspite of the distance. Much appreciation for that!
Thank you for writing back, I do hope you've enjoyed your weekend away.... Welcome back!! :waving:
Well, since you asked�Klol I have a laundry list of things�Klol
First off I try not to smile, really, so I do not have laugh lines�K I never lift my forehead, so I do not have wrinkles there�K (plus I have good genes) I do have the having a child belly�K my fat hangs and it is gross�K when I meet a man he has 3 choices�K live with it, pay to have it removed, or leave me for someone else�K that is life on life��s terms�K I know my Y-shua�K He will either send some one that is ok with it or will pay for me to have liposuction�K I hope for the sugery�K��
