Author	Thread: Would you women have done the same thing or left it alone?
EssenceofOcean View Profile History	Would you women have done the same thing or left it alone? Posted : 6 Jan, 2014 06:18 PM Hello all! So, I get this email from this man that simply said, "Do you want someone to spend your life with?" So I looked at his profile and in the interest field it said, "cuddling." This is what I wrote back: Who doesn't want someone to spend the rest of there life with? I thank you for your message, but I find it a bit odd that your only, "interest," is cuddling?? I have to say that kind of comes off as creepy. Ladies, would you have done the same thing or just ignored the message? I just don't like to ignore people because I have sent messages on here and I never hear anything back from the man I send the message to so I know how that feels. However, it just makes me shake my head and be like really, seriously?...My rant is over lol. Post Reply
1jon310 View Profile History	Would you women have done the same thing or left it alone? Posted : 6 Jan, 2014 08:18 PM Essence As a guy I think that you provided good feed back. We all need good feedback because what sounds good in our heads does not always sound so good in print. Myself included. r Post Reply
EssenceofOcean View Profile History	Would you women have done the same thing or left it alone? Posted : 6 Jan, 2014 08:52 PM Thank you so much! The person did email me back and explained why he wrote such a message. I'm glad it wasn't seen as being disrespectful or rude to anyone something I was afraid of sounding because that happens with me sometimes. Post Reply
Hisjoymypeace View Profile History	Would you women have done the same thing or left it alone? Posted : 6 Jan, 2014 09:41 PM Well essense honestly, you ignoring his message probably wouldn't have satisfied your curiosity regarding his "oddness", be as it may "creepy"(smile)! What better way to break the ice in finding out just what his true "interests" really are! He probably needed someone just as yourself to help him open up a little and not be so evasive or secretive about himself.......just my 2 cents....... Or maybe he's just plain shy..........go figure(smile)! Post Reply
mcubed View Profile History	Would you women have done the same thing or left it alone? Posted : 7 Jan, 2014 08:56 PM Yes... He either want's just cuddling or more.... He will let you know if it's more. Post Reply
Wild_erness View Profile History	Would you women have done the same thing or left it alone? Posted : 7 Jan, 2014 10:20 PM I think you sent an appropriate response. Recently I was in an emailed discussion with a guy asking me various things, and he asked me if I would like to cuddle with him . . . I assumed that cuddle meant sit close to him on the couch and watch a movie or something similar. I responded with . . . I don't really enjoy cuddling very much . . . and he took that to mean that I don't like sex. Wondering if that is a code word that I am not up on in the CDFF community? Does cuddling mean sex to certain (or all) people on this site? BTW . . . my lowest Love language is touch, and that is also what I let him know after clearing up the cuddle vs sex confusion that we were both dealing with. I think I may still be confused :) Post Reply
mcubed View Profile History	Would you women have done the same thing or left it alone? Posted : 7 Jan, 2014 10:32 PM �and he took that to mean that I don't like sex. Wondering if that is a code word that I am not up on in the CDFF community? Does cuddling mean sex to certain (or all) people on this site?� I do not know what it means to all people, to me cuddling is well cuddling�. I think because it can lead to strong physical emotions� another words � sex�. But all is fare in love and wars� first off you don�t just find a man and cuddle�. By time cuddling comes around you know the person and there walk� for me any man who want to �hook up� to �cuddle� sounds idiotic and I wouldn�t want to meet them to begin with!!!!! Post Reply
EssenceofOcean View Profile History	Would you women have done the same thing or left it alone? Posted : 8 Jan, 2014 12:33 PM I think all of this is very interesting! I have no idea what my love language is.. could someone explain that whole thing to me? As far as cuddling goes..I think it may be a code..for a lot of people. Though I hate assuming things. Post Reply
Wild_erness View Profile History	Would you women have done the same thing or left it alone? Posted : 8 Jan, 2014 05:08 PM I was just referring to the book written a while ago called "The 5 Love Languages." They include: quality time, words of affirmation, gifts, acts of service, and physical touch The book encourages people to figure out what their loved ones language is . . . so that they can be less frustrated with showing love to another person. My example is something like this . . . My lowest one is Touch (only 1 of 30), and highest one is Acts of Service (17 of 30). . . so if someone wanted to make me feel loved, they would do something for me like build a garage with me, and not expect me to have to touch them. :) Joking (sort of) :) It just helps you to figure out or recognize what your loved one needs from you to feel loved, and it is helpful if you know what their top language is, and then you can figure out how they are showing you love too. You can search on the internet and find the test and it only takes a few minutes to do. Very interesting! Post Reply
1jon310 View Profile History	Would you women have done the same thing or left it alone? Posted : 8 Jan, 2014 08:21 PM My small group and I were playing a board game when one of the women landed on a space where it said that if she was feeling "playful" then she should skip to the "play ground". She turned red and did not want to move her piece to the spot on the board called the "playground." It turned out the "feeling playful" was her and her ex husbands code phrase for feeling amorous toward each other. The reason I relate this story is that certain people have these code words and others like to take innocent words and turn them into something tawdry. My two cents.. cuddling has nothing to do with intercourse. Or as "M' said cuddling is just cuddling. r Post Reply
icaretoo View Profile History	Would you women have done the same thing or left it alone? Posted : 9 Jan, 2014 12:48 PM I probably would have done the same thing. On the other hand, cuddling, doesn't have to include sex. It can lead to other things, though, but, both people have to decide the boundary line. If there is respect on both sides, it be done without feeling uncomfortable. I've been there, feeling comfortable and feeling uncomfortable. I do like that info about the 5 Love Languages though. Humm... Post Reply